Reposting due to previous posts having an issue

To the person who continues to report a META post, which is a post type that is always allowed, reread the rules and stop being part of the problem lol

Hey RAOMD

I wanted to make this post to hopefully bring awareness to the behavior guys are displaying and hopefully some self reflection and self improvement can be done.

About myself: I've been a longtime member of this community for over five years, during which time I've had verified successes, all of which you can find on my profile. I've had in-depth conversations with many women in this subreddit, in person, in the sub discord, and in DMs, who've been expressing their frustrations more frequently either in off hand comments or conversations pertaining to this exact topic.

The first thing i want to mention is the men's lack of ability to read somebody's post in it's entirety or choose to blindly ignore simple requests within them. For example, messaging redditrors despite explicit instructions in their posts not to do so (this particular case is success posts). One redditor shared that she "honestly felt harassed" after an influx of message from guys after her success post went up that mentioned she didnt want to be messaged and when all she wanted was to share information about safe meetups for the benefit of other women on the sub who lurk or were iffy about posting/messaging. But because of this, she doesn't know "if i'll ever make a post actually asking for a muff dive again".

Similar to the first, men getting upset when women do have meetups/successes and sending hate chats. Just because you reached out or even spoke to a Redditor doesn’t mean you’re entitled to a meetup. You’re also showing your true colors if somebody having a good experience hurts your feelings when the point of the sub is for women to experience unreciprocated oral.

Next up is people having wildly unrealistic expectations, demanding quick responses and immediate meetups, and getting upset when a redditor doesn't reply. Guys don't seem to get that people on reddit have lives outside the sub. Like, give a girl some space and time to gather her thoughts.

Another issue is people mentioning their dicks in posts and the tried and true dick pic. Guys, when posts go up asking for pics, unless they explicitly mention it (which ive never seen), DON'T SEND DICK PICS. This is RAOMD, so why the fuck does your dick matter when replying to a post about a muff dive anyway? Or mentioning the size of your dick in your post title/body? Your intentions are obvious that you're looking for something other than a muff dive that is meant to be for the woman's enjoyment. Not saying you can't enjoy it too, i'm saying dick pics have nothing to do with giving a woman head. If the size of your dick is the only redeeming factor you have, yikes.

Something a redditor brought up to me in DMs was the sense of pressure for reciprocation they get from guys. Despite the other subreddits that cater to specific needs, such as r/randomactsofblowjob, this shit is still brought up. If you don't want to give unreciprocated oral, then why even bother posting or replying to posts on the sub? Stop wasting your time, but more importantly other people's time and post or reply elsewhere. Don’t ask if she wants to return the favor, if she does im sure she’ll tell you.

And finally, guys don't just treat women badly, but each other too. From downvoting one another's comments, posts (success or searching posts), to commenting on verified success posts claiming that they're fake. Like, questioning the validity of unverified posts is one thing but verified posts are specifically taken so that doesn’t happen. Like, why bring that negativity to the subreddit? If you think it’s faked just report it to mods. It's pointless to comment and just makes people not want to contribute anymore.

Honorary mention to an issue that occurred recently where one redditor felt creeped out by a redditor who reached out to her multiple times in DMs and kept trying to get her attention on discord…while not even being in her area. There’s no point in messaging somebody not in your area and Redditors get annoyed with that.

Anyway, these are just some of the issues but if i've missed anything by all means comment any issues I may have missed. If you want to start a discussion, propose a solution, or challenge anything I’ve said, comment or come on the discord and we can chat there in voice or general.

Note I’m not saying all guys are problematic. But the ones that are definitely ruin the sub experience.

Guys, do better, be kinder, and stop with the dick pics.

RCG