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[META] - Question for Women/Vagina Havers - Do you like it when someone reaches out about a previous post?
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Plus_De_Jouir is in META
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This is a genuine question: if you posted on here seeking a muffdive in the past, and left the post up, and then someone reaches out 6 months, a year later, is that bad form or welcome? These are thoughtful, extensive responses, having read the post and meeting the criteria asked for, not just random "hey whatsup" messages.

I've heard both sides. I have reached out before and had non-answers, or annoyed responses, but also more than one success, including one woman with whom I developed a fwb relationship and always said how thankful she was I reached out randomly.

But I'd be curious if there is a general recommendation here. Thanks!

EDIT: Thank you all for the really interesting range of responses here. It seems like there is no one size fits all answer - obviously if the post says "no longer looking" or "do not message" then that should be respected. I've always been very selective about who I choose to "cold" message and will be even more so in the future. Thanks everyone for their time and wisdom!

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It's so I have an established account. It looks sus af when there is no post history. I used to delete.

No please don't. It's weird. I'm not looking for that now.

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