Hello team,

I'm back with another guide to success. If you don't know me, I'm one of the friendly mods around here (and also a frequent participant in RandomActsOfBlowjob). Today, we're going to discuss ghosting.

What does it mean to be ghosted?

Simply put, a person who was responding with interest seemingly drops you out of nowhere. They stop responding entirely without any warning. They may block you. They may agree to meet up and then not show up.

Ghosting sucks.

Why do people ghost?

There are a multitude of reasons for it. First and foremost, let me tell you that life happens. Maybe something came up at work that has diverted all their attention. Maybe they got into a fender bender and they're stressed about their insurance and getting their car fixed. Maybe they had just had a breakup, and their ex is trying to reconcile, so they're going back to the ex and giving that person all their attention.

Ghosting is not always malicious. Sometimes it's very unthoughtful, but 99% of the time, they are not ghosting you with the intent to hurt you. Try to not take it personally. I've been ghosted before (and I'm handing out free blowjobs here!!!), so I know from personal experience that it absolutely sucks.

How can we avoid being ghosted?

There is no way to absolutely prevent this from happening. Unfortunately, in this life, we are only able to control our actions, and not the actions of other people.

I want you to read that sentence again and internalize it. We can change what we do, but we can't change what other people do. If she was going to ghost you, she was going to ghost you and you can't prevent it. But we can see some warning signs.

First, if their messages start drying up. You were texting fine, getting along great, yadda yadda, but now they aren't responding nearly as much, or you're getting one word answers. Read the room. This is a good indication that the other person isn't as interested anymore. It can be helpful to ask them plainly, "hey, are you still feeling this?" Or some variation. Sometimes it'll be because work got busy, or childcare, or etc, and they'll put you on hold for later and thank you for your patience. Sometimes they just need a reminder because their life has gotten busy. And sometimes, of course, they'll own up to not being interested, and you guys will go your separate ways.

Second, and this is aimed more at the scammy type ghosters, please always verify who you're meeting with. I recommend reverse image searching their photos, especially if it seems too good to be true. 10/10 porn stars are not meeting 5/10s on reddit for a free blowjob very often. I'm sorry, but it's the truth. Have them hold up a fork in a picture, or a little sign with their username. When they give you a location to meet, google the address. If they're sending you to a warehouse in bumfucknowhere, you're going to lose a kidney, not get a blowie.

Third, and this is the hardest one to deal with emotionally (for me at least), you've made the plans, you've set a date, you've got a hotel picked out... and they aren't texting you back the day before. You have probably been ghosted. I find it helpful to send them one or maybe two more messages, confirming that they aren't coming. Some people will find the courage and admit they're not going to meet you. Some people will still leave you on read. Don't continue to keep messaging them. If you've been ghosted, let it go. Don't think you can harass your way into a blowjob with a clearly unwilling participant. It's desperate, and not a good look.

Do you have any ghosting stories you want to share? How did you deal with it? Let me know in the comments below.