When I was younger, I always thought blowjobs were a much more common part of adult relationships. I figured it was a natural progression as physical relationships advanced. I would have assumed it was more common in the earlier part of relationship in the eager to please phase. I would have guessed that I’d have had more blowjob partners than sex partners but this is SO far from the truth…I’ve had multiple serious relationships, long relationships and plenty of flings/ 1 night stands and I can say with honesty that i’ve only had 1 girl give me consistently good blowjobs. All others have been mediocre at best. Toothy, low effort low energy, unwillingness to do it in general or overall just sad.

Fast forward, i’m now married with kids, I love my wife and my family and for various reasons I don’t want to change my situation. That being said things in the oral department just keep getting worse and worse…It’s always been a “i’ll do it cuz Im supposed to mindset.” In the beginning she offered pretty regularly but for some reason never really followed through. In passing comments like hey i’ll blow you later or something similar but by the time later came around she was too tired or not in the mood or whatever the reason. Probably 7 out of 10 times it does not happen. When it does happen, she acts like it’s a chore. No excitement or enthusiasm or passion and she settles in like she’s in for a long haul. She’s always been weird with cum and has never let me finish on her face (ok no big deal), but recently she told me she won’t swallow any more either and won’t finish me with her mouth.

We’ve had some conversations about my pleasure which resulted in us buying 2 different strokers (both her idea and she chose both of them, I didn’t select them). She’s finished me with them twice in total because she doesn’t like lube. Not just the taste but the texture, we’ve tried flavors we use water based lubes but it doesn’t matter so now our strokers don’t get used…

I crave a good blowjob so badly but I’m starting to think that maybe this is the norm and an enthusiastic blowjob is the rarity. I’m starting to think that women don’t in fact enjoy giving blowjobs and only do it if they feel they have too. Is it a lost cause to keep searching? Have I already gotten the best blowjobs that i’m going to get? Is my experience normal or is there a woman out there somewhere who might be able to help me fulfill this craving?