OK after posting last week and not really having the highest expectations, after a whole lot of narrowing and filtering I did get it down to one person I was connecting with really well over messages and seemed to have a good sense of what I was looking for. Both just general conversation vibe and interests of what we wanted this to be.

I will say first, I was surprised that most of the responses (like 80% ) I received actually did take the time to read my post, and with some effort responded to most of the points (all y'all apparently really like mangos). I was expecting for making this kind of post to have to filter through a whole lot more lower effort replies. On the flip side, I got almost 200 dm requests and messages that replied back with basically the same type of info and formate in each one, and when almost every reply looks the same it becomes really, really hard to pick out who would be a good match from just that. I will say the few that stood out the most in the end did a really good job at responding to the points directly in my post, were very respectful initially, and could in detail describe how they would like the whole thing to go. Take that as feedback if you want to know what stood out, I guess.

Anyway. To describe how this all went down. We messaged over a couple evenings, he is 30M, living by himself working here for the summer, temporarily here in the US. Which, if I am being honest, all bonus points. We connected over a number of things (will probably get to that in a bit) and planned to meet up at a cafe near his apartment after we were both off of work.

I made the drive down to him yesterday evening, the whole time definitely feeling the nerves. I have had dates and meet ups and all where you feel that early awkwardness of trying to have an in person conversation after you have been on a very different level for a couple days before, but knowing what we were meeting up for while meeting in public first was a different thing on top of that. He did take far more of the initiative and was maybe even more friendly in person which was a relief, and something I was feeling really good about.

We made the walk to his apartment from there, and right after we were inside and he had checked on how I was feeling, he was pulling me in close and we ended up with him on the couch and me between his knees. I feel like I am not the best at describing how this went but once we had his pants down I started with my mouth on him, starting slow and it getting a little rougher once he had his hand in my hair guiding it a bit. I will say the best part is he got what I was looking for in a vocal blowjob, both with him giving really clear feedback while it was happening and just the sounds he made. I love how responsive he was and how much he showed it. It didn't really last too long before he came in my mouth (something we had talked about), and just from his reaction I think he was planning on lasting longer ha.

We took a minute to wind down from that, and he brought up again he was more than happy to reciprocate, and at that point I was definitely feeling up for that. I haven't exactly had the best experiences with receiving oral, have never really had an orgasm from it or anything (ADHD brain likes to get in the way of that, something else we connected on ha), but for what it is worth I can see where the appeal is at. I very rarely can get to orgasm that way though so we switched to me touching myself on my back while he provided extra help (he had suggested trying his hand in my hair with some tug, his mouth on my nipples, some of the ways he was being vocal, and him adding a finder in the mix and ohmygod that combination did something for me).

We both came down off of that, stayed in bed and cuddled a little bit and talked about it. I think just like talking about the whole thing, it playing out more or less how I had hoped, and like debriefing it we eventually were both ready for a second round. We had before talked about how rough I thought I could handle a blowjob, and I said I was at least down to try. My gag reflex is a little sensitive but he helped me feel less self conscious about that the way he was encouraging while also not really holding back (at least not all that much from my perspective) and we swapped around in a couple different positions that helped. He ended with him cumming on my face (another something I said I was ok with before) and though after that first time it took a little longer and him helping more it was probably even more satisfying than the first time.

We cleaned up, exchanged semi-awkward goodbye's (a little bit of him checking in and me not being sure how long to really stick around ha). I won't name names here unless he chooses to do so but still very happy if that was a one time experience, or we try taking something further in the future.

I don't plan to set up something like that again here in the near future, (so don't expect me to reply to more, please). But all in all positive experience and my pretty low expectations were very well exceeded.