I've had ocd all my life but it didn't occur to me that my constant obsessing over negatives in my relationship and all the little voices constantly telling me to end the relationship where symptoms because I didn't know rocd was even a thing until I looked into intrusive thoughts more after I broke up with my partner after a bad ocd episode. I realized that the break up was the worst case scenario of following through a compulsion and luckily I was able to get back with my partner. my point here is I don't know how to distinguish my actual feelings from the intrusive obsessive thoughts. I constantly feel guilty because I can't get past obsessing over the negative thoughts about them and the relationship. now just the thought of my partner triggers the obsessing and guilt when I see her I remember the obsessions. I know I love her but the intrusive thoughts are so convincing and prominent I don't know how to cope and manage without feeding the obsessions. I'm so afraid of the thoughts being true or giving in to them I don't want to ruin the relationship but it's so hard to deal with. how do I cope or manage when my ocd keeps yelling at me to obsessively think awful things about someone I love and a relationship that I really want to work? I don't know how to stop the obsessive thoughts. any advise would be very greatly appreciated.