I do identify with some of the symptoms of it, like constantly worrying that my partner doesn’t “really” like me, that he is going to cheat on me and that he is going to break up soon because of that. I also ruminate a lot, like thinking 24 hours a day about the same thought for weeks on end. This is extremely unpleasant and making my depression so much worse. (depression diagnosed by a therapist) I also used to ask him constantly if he really likes me, which is hard for him. My therapist told me to stop that, but it is really hard and sometimes i still do it. Does this count as reassurance?

I do not doubt if i love him and i do not think about his flaws constantly. I also rarely compare him to others, because i am sure he is a great guy. I did have thoughts like “oh no he said he doesn’t like traveling, i cant be with someone who is not going to travel with me” or “he is so annoying in arguments, it wouldn’t be bad if this didn’t work out” but i do not worry about it anymore, because we are currently traveling together and working on communicating in a way that is good for both of us.

One time i thought i was in love with someone else and really panicked, because i do not want to break up with my boyfriend. That time i did compare him to the other guy and felt so guilty for this and for the feelings i thought i had. Luckily i found out that it was just a short crush and now we are friends. I talked to my boyfriend about this and he told me it was okay to have doubts from time to time.