Honesty

In the past, I've had friendships where I was sheltered, I was shy and cautious, I hid certain things about myself because I was afraid of being judged. I grew up and developed in environments where I felt like I had to conform to other people's standards and expectations in order to get their approval and maintain their friendship. Fuck. That!

Often that led to me building eventual trust with them, but being unable to invest in it fully, because all these things I'd hidden or lied about, it was now awkward to suddenly change that and "be me" around them, because they already had a long lasting impression of who I was, and I was anxious and awkward as fuck.

So nowadays, I try to be as open as I can about who I am, I try not to intentionally hide things. I try my best to foster safe and welcoming environments. No judgement. No gaslighting. No invalidation. No kink shaming. No such thing as too much information. These things have NO place between me and my friends.

I understand it can be difficult at first, trust takes time for some people. For me, I tend to trust fast to a certain extent with people I click and vibe with, but it takes a bit of time to get the deeper trust.

Boring?!?

Well, I just happen to be someone who's had quite a life, and I'd be happy to talk about it. I travelled Europe (studied / worked there for a short time). I had a long distance relationship (over 10 years ago) and travelled to the US too. I've been to Perth, Melbourne, Gold Coast (when I was 8 anyway..), and recently Sydney. But, I am a homebody, I'm introverted. I recently got a new job (Sydney based) and I work from home 100% of the time (as a Software Engineer, I program / code). And my day-to-day is mostly work, entertaining my cat, playing games, watching things (though I do this less, as I like to watch with others). Housework, keeping things clean, keeping myself alive (cooking, hygiene, etc). I'm not particularly great at being an adult, my adolescence didn't prepare me at all.

Once I've settled and adapted a bit to this new job, I'm thinking of becoming a volunteer paramedic, and I want to self teach myself guitar. I taught myself how to crochet last year (see my profile posts!) and it sparked a bit of creativity in my mind, it made me realize the smarts I have for programming can be applied to other domains.

Dossier

Some basic things about me, in list form, I suppose. Selfie posts on my profile! If you're comfortable sharing yourself, please send a picture! If there is anything in this post that you click or vibe with, or something specific that makes you want to reach out, let me know what it is!

• Sex? One thing I like to start off with: I am ace friendly! I am not a particularly sexually driven individual, if you have a highly active sex drive, I may not be the right guy for you. I have some kinks, I'm open to flirting, open to exploring myself more with the right person, but I do not see it as a necessity. My love language is physical touch. Think intimately entangled cuddles (naked too), fondling, caressing, providing massages, that kind of thing. I can be and can get a little perverted in these kinds of cases, but that doesn't mean I'm trying to pressure into sex
• Dossier: I'm just a little shy of six foot, I don't care if you're taller, with or without heels, Caucasian, 73kg, ~30" waist, long hair (for looks/selfies, see my post history - you'll see my cat too!), Carnivore. I'd appreciate it if you sent a picture too, I'll understand if you don't or would prefer to chat a bit first! I'm not here to be creepy or weird, I'm not here to judge or invalidate people, I'm not going to think you're weird or strange no matter what you might tell me about yourself.
  
• Religion: Atheist, but I respect and can appreciate religion and cultures of all kinds!
• I do not smoke or do drugs, I'd prefer you don't either. One exception when I was in EU and had a special brownie.
• Alcohol, some times and socially, typically only special occasions or specific social meet ups. I get talkative, bubbly, and extremely positive when I drink, my optimism peaks and I just really relax and vibe (it eases my anxieties and nerves).
• Anime: Demon Slayer, Attack on Titan (I have not yet seen final season part two), Full Metal Alchemist (original and Brotherhood), Made In Abyss, Air, SHE the ultimate weapon (Saikano), Eureka Seven, Ragnarok, Cowboy Bebop, Wolf's Rain, Boku dake ga Inai Machi (Erased) - I haven't watched a lot lately.
• Video games: Recently played Limbo, Ori and the Blind Forest, Hollow Knight, currently playing Horizon: Zero Dawn, loved Fantasy Life an AC:NL on 3DS, I have a Switch but never finished Zelda BoTW. I have never played the Halo games and I'd love to find someone to play through them in co-op with on legendary (I suck at fps)! I loved Last of Us (haven't played the sequel yet) and I am INSANELY hyped for the HBO series!!
• Programmer and PC (discord) nerd.
• I like walking and hiking.
• I read some times (fiction).
• Netflix and chill actually means Netflix and chill (nothing else, not a metaphor ffs)
• Shows: Stargate SG-1 (a fav)m IT Crowd, Mighty Boosh, Black Books, Stranger Things, The Witcher, Dark, Gravity Falls, Rick and Morty, The Office, Seinfeld, Becker, Mr. Robot (never finished this one though), Final Space, Smiling Friends, House, Sherlock, Dragon Prince, Brooklyn Nine-Nine,
• Film: Marvel (though I'm behind a bit on some films), Disney, Dreamworks (HTTYD is fav), Don Bluff (Anastasia), Studio Ghibli, Weathering With you, Silent Voice, Your Name, Fantasy, Horror, Action, Comedy, I'll watch almost anything, especially if I get to watch it with someone!
• I watch subbed anime, I watch Netflix with subtitles on
• Music: i have a Spotify list to share!
• If I was four inches tall, I'd hide in your pocket!

What am I looking for?

Friendship and trust, someone to message and chat, to confide in, and for them to confide in me! To support one another! If we click and develop a long-term emotional connection, great! But I'm not going to force that to happen. If you're down to play through the Halo games - even better! I've never played through them and I'd love to try and co-op the story / campaign (in release order) in co-op mode!! I'm terrible at FPS... so let's laugh at how tragic it goes! I'd love to stream this on Twitch too, if you're down! For me, jumping on voice can be a bit anxious/nerve wrecking. Having a bit more of a purpose than to chat (playing a game, watching something) makes it a bit easier.