So I finished work yesterday, had dinner, and then my mother and brother visited for a while. As I had intended to clean a bit so I wouldn't have to do so over the weekend, once they left - that is what I did. So between 11pm and 1am I was vacuuming and mopping. Some times that is who I am.

Selfies and pictures of my cat on my profile!

Every time I go to write one of these posts, I always tell myself I’ll try to make it short and concise compared to my long posts. The thing is, those longer posts go into so much depth and detail on specific things and still barely scratch the surface of who I am and how I came to be. And so every time I try to do this, it always ends up being long. However if you take the time to read this, I’ll take the time to read yours, or whatever you may send me, and I’ll do my best to reply appropriately.

I grew up as a kid learning how to read because of Pokémon Blue. I had an MMO addiction phase for quite a few years as a teen, this put me on a rather toxic and negative path. It had a huge detrimental impact on my social abilities and anxiety, I had a long distance relationship with a US girl at the time, I even dropped out of high school and travelled to meet her.

Since then, I’ve worked for a bank, graduated University with a post degree, studied in Sweden and travelled Europe, I got to meet some of my online friends!! All of this has helped me grow exponentially and become a much nicer, respectful, and considerate individual. And I’ve worked a variety of jobs throughout, I’m now settling into a new job and I absolutely love it.

I’m a deep and educated individual, my intellect and wit starts to show once I break through the initial shyness, so please don’t judge me on first impressions, they may not be accurate.

I prefer to text and message a bit to see how we click and vibe. Calling can take some time unless we call with the purpose of watching something or playing a game together, this eases some of the nerves and anxiety since there’s a central focus for the call!

My last dating experience was for 4 months, we mutually broke up in January, we had been good friends for 8 months prior to dating, we no longer talk. Before that, I was emotionally manipulated in late 2020, and in late 2019, my partner (of 6 years) and I mutually broke up. We didn’t get enough time together, we were both too busy, we became different people with different wants and needs, and the relationship didn’t have the chance to grow or adapt with us.

My love language is touch: intimate cuddles, fondling, caressing, hand and arm holding, that kind of thing. I am not a particularly sexual individual, if you have a demanding or regular sex drive, I am not the partner for you. In a relationship context I like to pamper: back massages, foot rubs, back scratches, that kind of thing. It’s one of my ways of showing affection.

Feel free to reach out with ANY questions, I’m a very open individual and no matter how personal or controversial something may be, I’ll do my best to give a considerate answer so long as I am comfortable doing so.

I want to create a friendship that builds and provides a safe and welcoming environment, where you can speak your mind, where you can express the thoughts you're most guilty and shameful for, there is no such thing as too much information. I won't judge you for your problems or your issues, I won't judge you for the things you've done in the past. I've hurt people, I've been hurt by people, I've done things that weren't particularly nice, and I've had things done to me that weren't particularly nice. I learned, I grew, I'm no longer that person. And no matter how "silly" or "trivial" society may make us feel our thoughts are, or the basis for our emotions is, if something matters enough to influence your thoughts and emotions, then it is important enough to deserve attention. I don't care if you have a random breakdown when you see a tomato in the grocery store because it's particular shade of red happens to remind you of a morning where you really struggled to get up in the morning. And I don't care what "weird" or "strange" thoughts may cross your mind, i'm not out here to judge you, on an extreme side of things, I won't kink shame. I don't care if you're into demons and tentacles or other niche things - I'm just interested to hear about you and how you became to be who you are.