Hello Redditors.

I had some interest in finding out how my night went from my r4r I posted up in October, looking for a likeminded guy to keep me company one night while I was visiting Melbourne. My original post [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/r4rMelbourne/comments/dj3a0f/f4m_in_melbourne_for_a_weekend_in_november/)

So this is pretty late on the scene, sorry!

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In total, I received 107 private messages and 38 direct chat requests, in response to my r4r. I took the time to reply to every single one of them (except for that one filthy bdsm message, what's a guy thinking when he sends something like that??), initially in the beginning sounding each guy out to see how we might vibe, and then later to say thanks, but I'd managed to find someone already.

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And that someone was absolutely perfect. It took a while to get there; of the 145 respondents, I probably pursued a bit of a back and forth chat with 25 of them. Of that 25, maybe 10 moved to another platform for pic exchanges. From that, I maintained a little more of a chat with 5 guys initially, but one was lost due to suspected catfishing, and then there were the late contenders that entered the scene. Attrition dropped it down to 2 (some guys just lost interest in the maintaining the convo, so I lost interest in them. One even left the country! ) and nearer to my date, I knew I had that one. He was fascinating, confident, attractive, witty, so warm, and there was chemistry in the chat, it was undeniable. Let's call him J.

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I met J on Friday night at a little bar in the city. It was busy, crowded, dark wood, low lighting, great ambience. J looked even better in real life than in pics, and we sat and shared a few plates of food and a few drinks. He was charming, it felt so easy, lots of eye contact and smiles, and there was even a little hand brushing against hand - the frisson of anticipation was set on high!

When we walked out, there was a light misty drizzle in the air, and J pulled me in to him and kissed me there on the street, and that commanding confidence was what I needed. It was a great kiss, I didn't even mind the beard. We walked on, arms around each other, to another bar- less busy, more intimate, and sat together again, knee to knee. J was being attentive and conversational, perfect first date ingredients. We were getting along just fine. So when we finished our drinks, we walked back to my hotel.

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And there, ladies and gentlemen, my details will end. Suffice to say, J continued to be confident and attentive, and I was a very generous host to him. We both felt a great connection, and it was quite a bit later that we said goodbye to each other with a last kiss. The real gift of that night though is that, J and I are still chatting to each other. Through Reddit, I have a found a genuine nice guy who keeps me occasionally very distracted and always wondering when I can next visit Melbourne again.