If you're looking for a hook up, a quick flirt, or you have a sex drive, please don't bother. I am not a sexual person, and I flirt exclusively, which means it will take some time to get to that stage if the potential is there.

Note: I do like walking and hiking, and I prefer such environments over the beach.

I'll start off with a selfie, though this ones a few months old now and my hair has gotten longer since, it is straightened in this pic, and it is often a wild mess, in which case I just tie it back if I'm lazy.

I believe love is something you grow and build, friendship needs to come first, trust, respect, and comfortability need to be established as a foundation. Growing a connection and a relationship is something that takes time. How you vibe and click with someone makes a significant difference in how much time that takes. I have people I vibed with very quickly and our friendship grew to a certain point and then stopped. I have other people where the friendship grew quite slowly, but has eventually developed into something a lot more wholehearted. It can vary greatly, but potential can often be gauged early/quickly too (though that isn't an absolute).

Even in friendship, I believe in creating an environment where we feel safe and comfortable to voice absolutely anything. If you have guilts and shames of the past or present, I won't judge you or think differently of you for them, what matters is how you feel about those things now and how you have grown from them. I think it's important to be able to say what is on your mind, even if you don't agree with it yourself, and even if it's not something the other person wants to hear. You should have the support and validation which seeks to comfort and resolve rather than argue. There is no room for hostility, there is no need to be defensive, we all have our own perspectives, and misunderstandings happen, things don't need to be personal, things can simply be what they appear to be, nothing more and nothing less.

Life is great, though it wasn't always that way! I have come a very long way with who I am as a person and where I am in life. I've hurt people, and I've been hurt by people. I'm tired, and I wish none of that upon anyone. I grew up throughout my teenage years with an MMO addiction which crippled my social ability as I grew distant from family, friends, had an online relationship, and eventually quit high school. Longer term, this didn't put me in particularly ideal circumstances. Eventually took on University and got a job with a bank, and these two things combined began a journey of transformation. The professional environment with supportive and positive co-workers, to the forced study socials and pressures. I even studied in Sweden for 7 months as part of my degree, travelling Europe and meeting some of my online friends (cost me all of my savings at the time)!

A few years on, I now work from home, I can theoretically work whenever and wherever I want, so long as I'm available throughout work hours and make any required meetings. Quite often, I'll take extensive breaks throughout my working days and end up working in the evening a little instead. But mostly I try to get my working hours done between 8 and 4 (with a walk and a lunch break). My work is going exceptionally well and I am particularly career driven, given that I love what I do and my company is a great place to work with a lot of benefits and flexibility.

The circumstances I grew up under have led me to be an extremely patient individual, and I try my best to be understanding and respectful of all kinds of people. I can't remember the last time I was genuinely angry, I don't get mad, I don't raise my voice. I mean, I raise my voice in rare occasions of frustration, or out of sarcastic jest, but it's never directed at or towards someone. Some might say that this would mean I'm a bomb waiting to explode, but it's been a couple of decades, I'm sure I would have by now. Especially with the breakdowns and pressures I had throughout Uni and other things. I'm more an emotionally sensitive individual, I get sad and disappointed, rather than mad or angry.

My love language is touch. Intimate cuddles, snuggling, caressing, back scratches, giving massages of all kinds, hand holding, that kind of thing. However I am not a particularly sexual individual, it's something I am happy and open to exploring with someone, but I do not see it as a necessity within my relationship. But, that doesn't mean I don't have my perversions or can't be flirty, but it does mean that if I am those things, it is indicative of interest, but not necessarily indicative of sexual motives.

If we vibe, maybe we could watch the original Teen Titans cartoon and/or play some Halo (I'd like to play through the campaign on co-op!)? *