For me, sex is something I require a strong and longterm emotional connection for first. A relationship is many things more to me, sex isn't even secondary, and I don't even see it as a necessity or a dealbreaker. One night stands, casual hook ups - these have never been my thing, and if they are yours, we won't be compatible.

More Selfies and pictures of my cat on my profile.

It doesn't matter what I tell you about myself here, my words will be subconsciously bias towards myself, but I do my best to base it off of things other people have told me about myself. I have had plenty of time to become familiar with the differences between who I think I am, who I want to be, and who I actually am, and I have hopefully closed the gap on those a bit. In the end, you'll need to get to know me in order to verify and validate whether I am who I say I am. However, it is in my best interest to be truthful and accurate, as I do not want to waste my own time, and I do not want to waste anyone else's either.

I am in a relatively good place mentally and emotionally (I have my anxiety, which flares at times), it's okay if you aren't, I am emotionally available, but I am not here just to be some temporary fix or a rebound. So if that is what you are looking for, please move along, thanks.

Let me start off with some potential dealbreakers (both for me, and maybe for you) - please note that, these are explicitly in a relationship context, I am happy to be friends with anyone, and I will not judge you or think less of you just because your preferences or opinions differ to mine:

• I am monogamous (I am extremely loyal and committed) and you are too. I am a traditional heterosexual who believes in equality. Shared chore load, and the like, we should complement one another's strengths and weaknesses as a team. I am respectful of LHBTQ and you should be too.
  
• I don't smoke, neither do you.
  
• I drink, socially, you can too!
  
• I am demisexual (potentially ace)
  
• My love language is touch, intimately and perversely so. Spooning, entangled cuddles and snuggling, groping, fondling, caressing, et.
• I don't have any tattoos or piercings, but I don't mind if you do, I have considered a Toothless tattoo,
  
• I'm omnivore, but I am open to going vegetarian long-term. Right now, I'm not a great cook, and I'd rather not further restrict or complicate my diet. I don't mind if you're vegetarian or vegan, nor do I mind for what reason! Do know, if I go veg, it's more for environmental purposes than it is for the ethical reasons (I'm already running purely off solar!).
  
• I'm vaccinated, so are you (if applicable, I understand there are cases where people can't!).
  
• I am not religious, but I respect and appreciate people of all backgrounds and cultures. I am happy to learn, but I am not looking to adopt.
  
• I don't have a lot of local friends any more - a lot of them have moved interstate, or for others, it's just been over a decade since we actively hang out. The majority of my friends are online. I am an introvert, I can be very social, but it's selective, and heavily depends on the people and the environment. I am very fond of doing things as a couple, going for walks, hiking, cute dates, and the like.
• I prefer to message for a while first, and typically move to Discord. Depending on how we vibe, it may take a bit before I'm comfortable with calling, but the better we click / vibe, the easier that is, and it's even easier if the call has a purpose such as playing a game or watching something. Less awkward if there's a main focus beyond conversation.
  
• Kids? I have a lot of travel plans and things I want to do first. I also want to be in a position where mu life is stable in all aspects, where I only have to work 3-4 days a week, so that I have plenty of time to be a father. I accept that this may never happen, and that I therefore won't have kids, and at this point it's at least 8 years away. To have or not to have kids is not a deciding factor for me, they are a huge commitment, and only if and when I am ready for that would I be willing to consider it.
  
• All time favorite band is Linkin Park (if similar music taste is a big thing for you, I do have a Spotify list I can share!)
  

Relationship history

Never married. No kids. No baggage.

When I was much younger, I had an MMO addiction, I isolated myself from my friends, family, and reality. The online environment was toxic, it was one big egotistical social ladder where people did anything and everything they could to benefit themselves. I learned to adapt and survive to this environment, making me a rather manipulative and selfish person back then. I ended up in an online, long distance relationship at the time with someone I played a couple of games with over a 5 year period. We became extremely co-dependent and the relationship grew toxic and unhealthy, but we didn't know how to cope without one another, as we had been playing games together every day for so many years, it was all we knew. I eventually flew over there and by the end of it, we were able to mutually break up and let go and finally move on.

A couple of years later, I had a local relationship with a friend of a friend, this went on for a few years. Ultimately, I got into this relationship too soon, I was still transitioning from being selfish and manipulative, finding myself, still suffered impostor syndrome, and I had a lot of problems with being open and emotional - I struggled to talk about certain things, and so I would often just not talk at all. This lead to me hiding things, and by the time I was comfortable with talking about them, I was too awkward to do so. So the foundation for the relationship wasn't particularly strong, although we had some good times. Couple this with both of us working and studying, being way too busy to have time together, and our weekends being taken up with doing other social things together, we both changed without the relationship adapting, we mutually broke up.

A year and a half after that, I was manipulated by someone I considered to be one of my best friends, we had known each other for 3 years, and I had even met them a year earlier whilst travelling Europe. Another year after that, I made a new friend through work, and over an eight month period we grew really close and became really good friends. We tried dating. After four months, we broke up mutually. It didn't work out, the relationship wasn't becoming something that either of us wanted, it wasn't meeting our wants or needs. We broke up at the start of last year (twenty two).

I haven't talked to any of them since.

What am I looking for?

Someone to vibe with, get to know, friends, maybe something more? Friendship and trust can take time, and forming something beyond that can take even longer. However I do believe that, if you click and vibe with someone in the right ways, the process can be a little bit shorter, more so if you then continue to spend a significant amount of time interacting and conversing throughout the day-to-day. For instance, if you're seeing someone once or twice a week over the course of the year, I would say that interacting and conversing every day for 3-6 months is a potentially higher contributor to trust growth. It takes time and consistency to get to know someone, to learn about them. But, in terms of potential relationship, there's a few things you should know, I'm not here to hide anything. Let's chat for a while to start with and see how it goes.

I believe it's important, even in friendship, to develop a safe and welcoming environment, an environment where hiding things isn't necessary. Where you can speak your mind, speak your emotions (and even if you yourself disagree with them, you'll get support rather than hostility). Even if what you're thinking, or what you have to say, is condemning, or not so nice to hear - I value honesty above anything else, and so when someone is open and honest, I see no room for hostility or anger. I don't really get mad and I don't raise my voice, I try to remain respectful, considerate, even when faced with confronting and controversial perspectives. And even deep and personal things, I'm not here to judge you, I'm not here to tease you or laugh at you, I'm not here to kink shame you or think less of you because you're super obsessed with something that most people might find strange or odd. I want you to be the most you that you can be, because there's a beauty to be found in that, and if in doing so we don't really vibe or click - that's fine. That is not a reflection on you, or on I, some times that's just the way it is and it doesn't need to be seen as a bad thing.

My love language is touch. Intimate cuddles, snuggling, caressing, back scratches, giving massages of all kinds, hand holding, that kind of thing. However I am not a particularly sexual individual, it's something I am happy and open to exploring with someone, but I do not see it as a necessity within my relationship. But, that doesn't mean I don't have my perversions or can't be flirty, but it does mean that if I am those things, it is indicative of interest, but not necessarily indicative of sexual motives.

I want someone I can just share the experience of life with, have consistent attention from, give consistent attention to, watch things, play games with, travel, go on cute dates. Someone who compliments my intelligence, wit, and humor, and I theirs - something that may take some time for me to show. But, mostly, I play on the literal interpretations of ambiguous English in sarcastic jest and I will banter with you. If I was four inches tall, I'd hide in your pocket (just something to test you read through!) For me, I like to text and chat to start with, and grow into potential calls - if it's any condolence on this matter, when I met my online friends throughout Europe, they told me I appear exactly the same in person as I did online. Calls are easier for me initially if it serves an alternate primary purpose, like gaming together, as this shifts the main attention to something else. It's a little less awkward for me. In saying that, I'm terrible at FPS and I have never played the Halo games, so if there is anyone out there in the same boat, I'd live to dive in and play through the games in co-op mode (release order), even more entertaining if we dive in on the hardest difficulty and stream it!

What does a relationship look like to me? Cute dates, walks, hiking, cuddles and watching things together, playing games together, or even just chilling in the same space and doing our own things (with chatter, or even completely undisturbed by one another). Sharing the chore load. Making sure we both have enough time and space to still have our alone and free time. And ultimately... trust, honesty, and communication, and these ones take time to build. It takes time to show someone that it's safe to be open about all the weird and unusual things, to be comfortable being quirky, and it takes time for the other to become comfortable too. I'm not here to judge, and I want to see you as you, be the most you that you can be!

If we vibe, maybe we could watch the original Teen Titans and play some Halo?