Hi! Thanks so much for taking the time to look at my r4r post. I can’t handle the current dating app wasteland, so I find myself here, dropping my message in a bottle into the ocean. Here is what I look like: https://imgur.com/a/gowhznF

A little about me: I’m 37, recently divorced, no kids. I’m in therapy and have put in plenty of work on myself and would appreciate the same. I have a goth/alternative aesthetic (I wear a LOT of black), and am BBW, fat, thick, however you want to describe it.

I’m an artist, and love to create and experience art in many forms. I’m a non-religious witch and believe a relationship with nature is an important pillar of my well-being.

Some of my favorite writers and artists are Junji Ito, Edward Gorey, Daniel Clowes, Ai Yazawa, Oscar Wilde, Charles Dickens, Chanel Miller, and Sam Kieth.

I also have a deep love and appreciation of animation. I love Studio Ghibli movies, BoJack Horseman, Tuca and Bertie, and Over the Garden Wall, to name a few favorites. I’m a big fan of horror and scary movies, and enjoy watching bad movies for fun (I blame MST3K). I like to stay active with long walks, yoga, and dance videos.

I consider myself generally laid-back and positive. I try to live my life as an expression of love. I’m intelligent and naturally curious, and love learning new things and hearing about others’ passions. I’m progressive and can’t tolerate anyone who is “red-pilled,” “alpha male,” racist, homophobic, transphobic, xenophobic, or holds bigoted views in general.

What I’m looking for: A man, between the ages of 32-47. You are monogamous. Location is not super important, because I can do my job almost anywhere and would be willing to move for the right person. That being said, if there is a lot of distance, you would be okay with having a long-distance relationship for at least some period of time.

Hopefully you are warm, kind, caring, and sensitive. You are reasonably educated. You have gone through therapy or are currently in it, self aware, mature, and emotionally available. You don’t care for sports and most of your interests are artistic or intellectual in nature. You are patient, gentle, supportive and calm. You believe in talking out problems instead of disappearing, stonewalling or getting angry. You enjoy cozy days at home as well as going out on little dates and adventures and making new discoveries together.

You like preparing dinner together while we talk about our days. You appreciate when I make you tea or coffee and rub your shoulders. You’re willing to cuddle and care for me when I’m debilitated by cramps.

I don’t care if you have been married before or have children. I actually like having children in my life, but am not sure about having any of my own. And a man who is a loving and present father is a big turn on.

If you’re somehow still reading and any of this interests you, please feel free to message me and tell me a little about yourself. I wish everyone the best and hope we all find what we are looking for:)