Tl;dr version - just your garden variety turbonerd (comics, games, science fiction - you know the drill) looking for similar to have some manner of meaningful relationship with. Soft goth boi, bleeding heart, intelligent, prone to thinking too deep. Poly, bi, autistic as all hell.

Posting this here specifically as I do have a soft spot for women older than me. Take from that what you will. Dating younger than myself just feels super creepy (so yeah, I know, it's a total double standard).

The kind of people I like would be, well... people who are like me and read this thinking "oh yeah, this is me as well". Simple as that. I don't like having preconceptions about what I want because it's easier to just work it out as you go. We're not human checklists (though I do love a good list).

I am not after any one thing specifically. I've been mono up until a year or so ago when I realised it's too much on yourself and another person to put all the eggs in one basket. So, sort of still on a learning curve. Poly is just a functional solution to me.

I fancy myself as a bit of a digital artist, but I'm also super critical of my own stuff. I feel like I can't create anything from scratch, and it's always mashed up bits of someone elses work, which makes me constantly ask myself "does this have value?". There's tons on my profile, please send your judgements.

I have been described as a living paradox, and this is probably a fair statement. Basically I always manage to find a way to not fit in with either side on any given measure. Observe:

• War is an absolutely horrific thing, but I'm fascinated by it, and I'll admit it's exciting watching a righteous war being fought (see earlier comments re Ukraine)

• I spend a ton of time playing and talking about games, but the truth is I'm not actually that great at them

• When I'm in work I make a lot of bluster about how I'm gonna smash this or that target, but when I get actual good feedback I'm all like "oh it was nothing"

• I would never, ever enter military service (for one thing, they'd make me cut off my flowing locks), but I have this habit of percieving work/technical/art problems like a military problem and using the related language. Operational art is just another type of project management model

• I can be super serious about things that don't matter, like fictional settings I like; but when it comes to actual serious things, I can be real flippant

• I'm socialist to the core, but most lefties to me are whiny diletantes who just make me cringe. The right are even worse. Where is there room for the centrist these days?

• I adore the romanticism of the idea we could just depose all the profligates and rich hoarders (ah, the Socialist Spain Fairytale), but I can't abide the idea of resorting to violence to do it

I feel like I'm in a permenant state of being knurd, a term Discworld fans will recognise as the true opposite of being drunk. I swear most people live in a post-rational fantasy world as a coping mechanism, but I've never been able to do that. Things are the way they are no matter how hard you wish them otherwise.

Unordered list of things that I find appealing in a person: not being judgemental, sound ethical stances, fringes, appreciating the mastery of Beethoven, knowing all the lines to The Nightman Cometh, cheering on the Ukrainians, appreciating the wisdom of George Orwell and Pat Mills, patience, retaining your childlike sense of wonder, a bleeding heart liberal complex, knowing the Dark Tower saga lore, an ability to separate personal and important, hating on Batman for being a neo-con's wet dream, an eclectic taste in art, sharing a love of the Continent.

And that's all he wrote.