I'm gonna go with blunt honesty in this post in an attempt to be concrete about who I'm looking for. I know you’re out there somewhere, we just haven't found each other yet, so I've decided to give this a try. Because maybe, just maybe you are scrolling through these posts trying to spot me, and I need you to spot me.

Last weekend I turned 41, which is kind a weird as I feel younger and are told look younger too. Anyway I'm now 41, single, living in Denmark (as in Europe), I'm 5'4 (or 1,65 as we say in my country), brown eyes, dark blonde hair, curvy and blush easily. I read a lot, loves books and I even write myself. I tend to get lost in the moment when doing either, and time just seem to slip away. I love travelling, and I used to do that every year until covid happened and put a stop to that. I miss it, so at some point I’ll get back on that plane.

I did start with saying I’d go with honesty in this post so now the shocker, or at least I know it is for most, I'm a virgin and I'm sick and tired of it, mostly because my body and soul is starving to be touched. It's not something I've chosen on purpose as such but the thing is, I can't be with someone intimate without feeling a connection, attraction, feelings and the sense of being safe in his arms. I need all that in the man I'm going to be with. And also I'm submissive and I long to find a man older than me, who is a gentle, caring dom daddy sort, who'll guide me and teach me. And for that, I want us to be long term, I need us to slowly build up our connection, to that fire that will be us. Another thing is, I want you to be open to us some day meeting. I need more than an online affair. Weather you live close or over the pond from me, isn't a deal breaker because planes exist, it might mean we'll not see each other often but then when we do, it'll be fire crackling. And probably nerve wrecking on my part lol.

I do know many men in here are married, if you are, then before you write me, be certain you have space for me in your life.

On the last note, don't write me, if you just want something quick, or think you can push me around to do your bidding just because I lack sexual experience, so you push harder. Yes I've had the displeasure of men like that, and I'm not that desperate.

I both want and need the right man, the one who'll get to know me so well, he will know all the right buttons to push with me. I know your out there, come find me.

”Words is, if used well, a turn on and a way to build a connection, so please use them!”

P.s. I sometimes get dark days, where I’m quiet, and I need that to be okay. I lost my mum to cancer 1,5 year ago, we were very close, losing her put me into a depression. I am however fighting my way back, putting my life up and running again. But sometimes a dark day still comes, but just know, they stop. And if you’re the right man, who learns which buttons to push, you might just be the one who turns a sad smile on a dark day to a happy smile.