I’ve met many wonderful people during my sojourns on Reddit, always answering other’s posts and never posting myself until now. To date I haven’t found what I’m looking for, mostly because I don’t think I’m talking to the right people, and it has caused me huge disappointment and frustration. So rather than repeating what isn’t working, let me try stating what I’m looking for and seeing if by some serendipitous chance you’re out there waiting for me to find you.

So here goes… I want to be upfront about my relationship status and what I seek to find. I’m currently married with no kids, and my marriage is lonely and unhappy. We live such separate and disconnected lives that I live like I’m single, with the small technicality that we’re still married on paper. With having no kids, being financially independent and having none of the usual reasons why people stay in marriages, I’m on my way out in the near future.

It would be a valid question for you to ask why I don’t wait until I’m single before I embark on this search. The truth is I’m terribly lonely and would very much like the companionship of someone who catches my fancy. I’m looking to meet someone to build a relationship and future with, first online, later meeting in person, have a long distance relationship and eventually be together permanently. It’s important that you understand and accept my status. I’m open to your relationship status as long as it will be possible for us to have a future together should this be the right course for us. Ultimately I’m looking for my forever home.

I will be able to relocate to wherever you are because nothing ties me to where I am, in fact I’m looking for a change anywhere in the world.

It makes me cringe to tell instead of show things like personality and character traits so I’ll leave the discovery for when we chat. Just know I’m generally a good person with a good heart and I love few but deeply. I’m attractive and look young for my age, good company and a good conversationalist, intelligent, overly educated, and INTJ. I love making and listening to music, animals, walking and jogging, cooking and baking, gardening, reading, writing poetry, oil painting, sketching. Financial freedom, financial astuteness, frugality, living a simple life, and not being materialistic and consumerism focussed is important to me.

I’m looking for you if you’re older than 35, you enjoy sharing light banter and humour in addition to meaningful conversations and moments, and you’re looking for a serious long term relationship. I’m open minded about who you are so I won’t give a restrictive list. All I ask is that you’re passionate about something, anything, it doesn’t have to be related to my interests. You be you, you’re amazing!

If you meet my requirement in what I’m looking for in a relationship and if anything I’ve said resonates with you, please write to me. I look forward to meeting you!