To begin, I’m married, straight, and ethically non-monogamous. So if you’re looking for a husband, a bisexual man, or a monogamous relationship, alas!

When I was in my early 20s I had some good experiences in the hotwife lifestyle. Some of the best experiences involved me taking someone’s wife out for a nice date, all on the couple’s tab. Of course it was all pre-negotiated and communicated. But it was fun! (And in my early 20s, it was a great way to try interesting fancy restaurants waay out of my price range at the time).

A rollercoaster is a great analogy for how it felt. You know how it’s going to begin and end. You know it’s engineered to be quite safe. Yet none of these things affects the thrill of the ride. Though I also understand why some people stay away from rollercoasters 😉

From those experiences I learned that casual sex isn’t fun for me. Vertical time is three-to-five times more important than horizontal time. And that’s why I’m here. To find someone who is willing to spend about two-thirds to three-fifths of our time making a decent vertical-time connection.

I’m a fantastic flirt, an engagingly witty companion, and a pretty good listener. I don’t like to be touched without my permission, so I don’t touch people without their permission. I am somewhat well-traveled and I am a polyglot from my peripatetic upbringing. Therapy, and plant medicines, had a transformative effect on my life.

I’ve found that I vibe best with other non-mono people, but I am open to almost anyone who is off the heteronormative monogamous path. You get just me - my spouse is not involved. I am great with kids, but live child-free. As my username suggests, I am also Black. Snowbunnies are welcome, just don’t be a creep about it. I’ve never sent a dick pic, and I won’t start today.

If you’re interested, send me a message. Tell me what are some of your favorite things to do with vertical time.

Reddit has no barriers of entry. Ergo, dealbreakers are:

• no penpals

• no tobacco smokers

• no visitors or travelers (i.e more than 35 minutes from the edge of the Beltway).