I am a kind, understanding and tolerant person. Every woman who was interested in me thought: "This is a keeper" and immediately went into nest-building mode within weeks of a relationship. But at heart I am a free spirit. I don't want to be possessed, just as I don't want to possess you. I want to get close to you, but not tie you down. I want you to be happy, to explore your needs and desires. You do not have to sacrifice anything to hurt my feelings. Jealousy is a strange concept to me. I want to be close to you on a very deep level. I want to know the real you without judgement.

I have autoimmunity, so real dating is almost impossible because all the women on dating apps want a partner who is also their gym or hiking buddy and loves their kids. I've just found out that I'm not even sure I'll be alive in ten years' time. So 'building a life together' is a difficult subject. I am comfortable being alone, but I do get lonely sometimes.

This starts online and will probably stay online, at least for a while. If you are not single, that is absolutely fine. I want to get past the everyday stuff and instead connect with you on a deeper level. There are only two real turn-offs for me: Bigotry and xenophobia. We will text for hours, but sometimes not for days, depending on what's going on in our lives. We don't have to apologise to each other for that.

I love to travel, films with good acting, Ireland (I lived in Dublin for a few years), riding my motorcycle, good food (but also rubbish food sometimes), watching Formula 1 and queer eye are my guilty pleasures. I dress casually, you only see me in a suit and tie at weddings and funerals. I am vaccinated, politically left wing and feel strongly about it. I am rarely emotional, but the right song can make me cry. I live and love music. I play guitar and bass and sometimes write my own songs. Sending you a spotify link is my love language. As you can see from my profile, I dabble in audio erotica. I am a romantic with a dirty mind.

Looks are secondary but not completely unimportant. If you DM me, I will send you a recent pic of mine (clothed ;)