Looking to share it all: Love and trust, companionship and comfort, with a life partner, a kindred spirit, and a sustainable friendship.

Most people here online seem obsessed with penetration and orgasm. Nothing wrong with those things but that’s the easy part. I’m interested in the things that are much more important and difficult. Things like intimacy and vulnerability, openness and truth.

If you’re interested in travelling, reading, music and food we will have plenty to start with. Dog or cat moms, geeks, nerds, and goofballs to the front of the line please. I’m also interested in those with different or unusual hobbies and experiences.

So if you’re originally from out of town or out of state, this will work just as much as if you’re from elsewhere in SoCal. Just please be local to SoCal, preferably in LA; or in the SFV, which would be amazing. I have tried LDRs (in different states) and they really don’t work for me.

My perfect someone is present, humble, easygoing, and kind. She is earnest and likes to cook healthy food together, enjoys occasional social times with friends as well as regular quiet times at home with Netflix or gaming. Simple activities like going to a park, museums, hiking, or the latest movie are ideal.

I love to laugh, engage, and explore; and genuinely appreciate those that initiate playfulness or can be relied on to play along with my silly, fun-loving side. I appreciate and share a lighthearted and positive outlook. I love animals (we get along great) and being at the beach. I’m also a creative, play a number of instruments, enjoy the performing arts, and I read a lot.

I’m not dtf or looking to share nud3s or anything. At all. I’m not interested in someone that shares n.sfw pix as casually as sharing popcorn at a movie. No f.wbs, ONS etc. for me. The act of s3x, while very desirable, is less important to me than trust, comfort, connection and commitment.

Physically, what is important to me is closeness, cuddles, being affectionate and vulnerable, and sharing sensuality and desire.

I’m interested in getting to know someone for an exclusive and respectful relationship in which we honor each other. This comes with the initial expectation that we want to take time to get to know one another and are genuinely interested in being friends first, as long as meeting IRL is the eventual goal.

I was married for almost 15 years and I am a dad. I know what it’s like and what it takes to commit to a relationship, respect and support one another, and communicate clearly with a partner.

I am a loving and doting father to my one child and I am not interested in having more. So those who do not want (more) children are encouraged to step forward.

I currently share custody and there’s no drama. Her mom and I haven’t been romantic for years and we only want happiness for each other.

I’ve dated since and I’m ready to meet someone for true companionship and hopefully a life partner. I’m very loving and attentive. My love languages are words of affirmation and touch.

I’m posting this because I know, without a doubt, that you are out there and that you are looking for me. This is my attempt to make it happen for us. But I need you to do your part and reach out to me to make it happen.

One of the qualities I first mentioned is maturity. We gain maturity through experience. And through experience we sometimes get banged up, hurt, or otherwise damaged. This makes us more desirable, not less. I’m more interested in your maturity than I am interested in your actual adult age.

This got longer than I expected, I have more to share and discuss but I will save that for an honorable person who shows genuine interest in learning more.

If you are this person, please DM me and include a link to a favorite piece of media, music or funny video. Anything that you admire or care to share.

Thanks for reading this mini-novel.