But then again, aren't we all?

I'm feeling very awkward, as I haven't had to write one of these in a long while, but I'll do my best.

I'm 44, fairly tall with a dad-bod, and completely addicted to tattoos and piercings. (Two full-ish sleeves and my back for Ink so far, and 26 current piercings, with a lot more of both planned!) I'm into geek-pop culture (think LotR, Star Trek, D&D), LOVE horror movies, and my go-to music is punk, although I listen to a bit of everything.

I work a lot - like, a LOT a lot - so I'm not really big into going out and partying. Dates and day trips can be fun though!

I'm a coke/marvel/playstation fan, although I don't really hate on anyone that's into the opposites anymore. We're all nerds, we all contribute!

I smoke cigarettes (waaaaant to quiiiiiiit!) and occasionally hookah. I don't drink alcohol whatsoever, and I stay away from drugs (although I've participated with some 420 here and there, lol!)

I have a past, I'm not a fan of talking about it. I've been working on myself for a long long time, and I like who I've become and who I'm still becoming, so I try to not live in the past. Life is unpredictable short, but it's here and now, so that's what I want to enjoy.

I'm sarcastic and absolutely adore dad/mom jokes. I don't have kids and can't have any, and no pets to speak of, although I think I'm more of a cat person, since they're self-sufficient, but occasionally show they love you for the food and scritches you give them without being too smothery... most of the time... I can be kind of demanding and dominate at times - I've been known to growl - but I also love cuddling and giving gentle fingertip rubs down your arms, neck and back to show affection.

I'm an atheist, I know that the world is round and that black lives matter, I'm covid vaccinated, I have debt but I'm paying it off at a reasonable rate for a guy who's always lived check to check. I'm in the process of upgrading from a 1br apartment to GASP! a 2br apartment (to be faaaaaaair, I've lived in the 1br for the past nine years, and I really just wanted one of the remodeled units, lol!) My longest relationship was 7 years, my last relationship was 2 years (really still a bit bummed about that, I wholeheartedly thought she was the one, but it turned out to not be mutual, sadly.) I've not always been a decent person. There were years when I didn't actually care about what kind of person I was. The only part I like about getting older so far is I've had the time to reflect and make as many positive changes as I can while I still have time.

I'm a VERY picky eater. I've been wanting to branch out, but it's nigh impossible for me to force myself to eat anything I can't stand the smell or taste of, which is a lot. I can cook well enough for a single middle-aged white guy to survive on, but I shouldn't be your go-to for cooking for family or friends... not if you care at all about them, anyways.

I'm really not sure what I'm looking for in a person, aside from the obvious - funny, intelligent, self-sufficient but also sometimes needy, adult enough to work through problems and fights without bailing, strong enough to speak your mind and persist when there's a problem.

I do know I'm ready to settle down. I want to find my person, for good, for life. I'm happy with monogamy with the right person, but I'm also open to enm with the right person. I do have a preference for cis-gendered women of any orientation (as long as I'm one of them!), and I may have a tiiiiiiiny thing for shorter women with red hair, although those last two aren't necessary, lol! I am really interested in the lifestyle though, so people comfortable saying "sir" will catch my attention faster than anything.

I'm not necessarily locked into searching in just my area. The idea that my perfect person is definitely within 100 miles of me is ridiculous. If I meet the right person, my career has locations everywhere and relocation is a distinct possibility. I'm also open to staying here if this turns out to be a place you want to be.

Ultimately though, I'm not really dating only for fun anymore. I'm in this with the sincere intention of finding my person and sharing a (hopefully) long and happy life with her.