Helloooo, I hope you're doing well, and I appreciate your checking this out.

Soooo. There are valid reasons that I'm not going to be suitable as a partner for many/most. I figure I should just be forward about the major concerns, so I can feel less anxious about when X/Y/Z is going to come up, and to save a lot of mutual time/effort. I'm unemployed, a non-driver, and living with family. None of those are impossible to change, but they are things I'm struggling to tackle in life. Part of that struggle is due to some neurodivergent traits. ADHD (Executive Dysfunction feels a more fair descriptor), Anxiety, and Persistent-Depression, mostly. Likely on the spectrum. I'm in therapy, on meds, working with a job coach, and trying to get my shit together to move forward in life. Growth/Change is hard, and slow. I am trying.

Thoughts about myself:
I have to acknowledge that I have a hard time saying positive things about myself. Imposter syndrome's a jerk. I'm told I'm intelligent. I have amazing friends, and I believe they would speak highly of me. I'd like to believe it's fair for me to say that I'm caring, considerate, supportive, empathetic, honest, warm, and loving. Thoughtful, introspective, and self-aware. Fair, rational/reasonable.

I enjoy deep conversation, things akin to philosophy/society/morality/life/the-future. I'm happy to talk about games/media, too. I'm wired to solve problems, to make things better. Finished college with an associate's degree. I tend to know at a bit about a lot of things, so I can talk about most things in some context and be a good conversationalist. I'm up for talking about anything and everything, and I can share my thoughts/feelings pretty easily. I'd have a hard time saying I'm funny, but I have a sense of humor, and I can't say I don't get some laughs now and again among friends.

Hobbies/Interests:
My interests are mostly nerdy in nature. Various lists of media I like:
Games
Movies
Shows
Anime
Music

I don't read as much as I'd like, but I'm a big fan of Brandon Sanderson, Jim Butcher, and Terry Pratchett. I enjoy LEGO and other hands-on crafty things. I played D&D for a few years, it's something I'd be interested in doing more of. I'd be down for doing some other tabletop/board games, too. I enjoy swimming, and my seasonal preferences are Fall/Winter>Spring>Summer. I enjoy rain and snow. I like things being a little chilly, I like cuddling, and I like being under a blanket.

Religion/Politics:
I'm agnostic, and I'm a very left-leaning / progressive individual. Somewhere around Socialist Democrat or Democratic Socialist? I try and keep aware/up-to-date with what's going on. It's mostly upsetting, but ignoring it doesn't help, either. It's something I can/will talk about. I'm LGBT /PoC/Neurodivergent friendly.

Alcohol/Drugs:
I don't drink or smoke, but I do enjoy regular cannabis edibles, and I'm pro-psychedelics (done safely). No hard/addictive drugs.

What I'm looking for:
My love languages.
I'm happy to start with friendship, and see if things can grow beyond that. It's okay if they don't, no pressure. Ultimately, I'm looking for my person, and I want to be theirs in turn. Monogamy/Exclusivity in a relationship is important to me. Marriage, one day, would be nice. I'm hoping for someone ~5yrs within my age. I'm a shy/timid person, and I find I benefit/enjoy greatly when someone is chatty/forward/aggressive. I'd value someone who finds fulfillment/value in being an affectionate, empathetic, patient, reassuring, and emotionally supportive presence for their partner. I like to provide those qualities myself.

If we click, an interest in closing the physical distance is important. I'd like to live and share life together as long as we can, sharing the joys and easing the burdens of life. I'm mostly a hermit, and a night-owl. I'd just like to have a place of our own, for it to be comfy, and to find what harmony and happiness we can enable for one another. To find our own small ways to make echoes of positivity in the world, to enjoy what time we can have, and to nudge things in a better direction for those that'll be here after we're gone. Until then, I'm eager to enjoy what we can share until the distance can close. I'd really like someone who is looking to spend a lot of time together. Hanging out, talking over Discord. Watching and playing stuff together would be nice.

Kids:
I do not want kids. A vasectomy is in my future.

Sex:
I experience a measure of anxiety around sex as a topic. I'm very aware that women get frequent unwanted sexual advances/commentary online and in life, and the idea of contributing to that bothers me. I don't want to add to that discomfort, so, I'm not going to be one to nudge things those directions. It's certainly something I'd like to discuss/explore with someone, but I'm happy to let the other person take the lead if they're inclined.

That said, in the interest of divulging points of incompatibility, if one is interested in knowing probably TMI about my buttons...

I'd say I have a high libido, and am strongly a Switch, though Sub leaning. Dom kinks/inclinations are definitely there, it just... like above, there's fear of causing unwanted harm/discomfort to someone, so it's not something that comes naturally to me.
Growing up with the early internet, and over 25yrs on it, between porn, anime/hentai, SciFi, and over a decade of enjoying /r/GoneWildAudio, my buttons/sensibilities are… diverse and warped.
The good ol' BDSM test
Here's a woefully incomprehensive sampling of some of my buttons.
Annnnd another.

Thank you for reading, and as long as this post is up, you are welcome to reach out. I'll be around, probably playing some Warframe, and if you'd like to hop on Discord, chat or watch a movie, I'd love to hear from you and to get to know you.