Oh yeah, and have a relationship while we're at it!

Thanks for taking the time to read this post!

I am looking for a thirty to forty-something in and around the Greater Toronto Area and surrounding region. A monogamous, childfree partnership, and live a simple life with you. The dating scene is for the cool kids and I'm just not tall enough for the ride.

I'm really hopeful to meet someone who enjoys horror movies like I do, has a caffeine addiction that transcends the line between healthy morning does and insanity evening how can you drink it at this hour? Are you willing to look past my occasional run-on sentence structure and spelling errors :/ ? I promise I do not grade grammar. You can misspell all the words and mess up all the phrases. When we're together we'll know what we mean, even if it sounds like weird gibberish to everyone else. This could be a very tall order in a very narrow search field, but it's worth a shot. I will tell you everything about myself and I hope to hear all of your deep secrets and even catch a glimpse of your soul.

I'm a huge homebody and don't go out much. I'm not perfect and have flaws of my own which are enough to make me feel self conscious about trying to date or seek a relationship. I prefer simplicity and feel content with the things that make me happy. I was never a social butterfly and always felt lucky to have made the few connections I did when I was younger. In semi-recent years I have had an acceleration of drifting apart from people I know. Flash forward to now and still being single at age 41 I find I'm more or less just going through the motions these days. Running on autopilot. Wanting to make necessary changes in my life, while keeping the things that bring me joy and hopefully find someone who adds a whole lot more. That, of course, is to be shared both ways equally since I am staunchly supportive of equality in a relationship. We will both wear pants, or neither of us will wear pants. Call me boring or lame, but I want to find my "boring and lame" counterpart.

5'10, very short brown hair, glasses, white, no facial hair, no tattoos, and approx. 169 lbs. The first thing I do when I wake up is make my bed, sometimes I type as if I'm speaking casually, I've been known to use meditation to calm anxiousness, I am not really a night owl, and might be a bit clumsy at times. That last part is an inherited trait from my grandmother. Sometimes I overthink the small things too much and could use a voice to bring me back to reality. My attire is pretty much jeans and a t-shirt for the most part. Typically a graphic or plain t-shirt. Alas I lost all my old band tees to the wrath of time and a washing machine. My job doesn't require me to wear formal clothes which I consider a huge perk - think jeans and a collared shirt plus runners. I'm not superficial, I don't have a lot, and I am very grateful for everything I do have. I'm very fortunate in some aspects of my life, I'm not exactly an affluent individual, and I will not take anything for granted! I used to smoke cigarettes, but quit. I don't live alone, but with a roommate. No alcohol, no drugs except for a small amount of cannabis from time to time. It's very minimal and I don't even care if I keep doing it or not at this point. I enjoy routine, which has placed me in a bit of a rut, so let's build our own.

Even though I don't have a lot of experience with relationships, I know enough to understand that it's a shared effort. You know that also means: my popcorn becomes yours. Your wounds become mine. My tears are combined with yours. Our hopes to feel loved are never to be dashed again. Apart we are weaker, together we are tethered by the unseen shared bond. Two casualties of TV, stuck inside and wanting to to take a few steps out. Being a huge homebody I'm not looking for grand adventure, nor am I looking for someone to hide inside with indefinitely. There will be good blanket cuddling while watching our spooky stories, but I would like to enjoy simple yet fun outings with you. Sitting and drinking coffees and chatting, grabbing some pizza or a sweet dessert, walking and window gawking, people observing, letting our time be ours. I enjoy pizza enough to consider it a weekly staple (I said weekly not once a week lol). What we do is not to be limited only to what's mentioned here, and it doesn't mean we are all horror all the time. I'm opening myself to the next chapter in my life. The pages turn quickly, sometimes too fast to comprehend, I ask you to join me in slowing things down a bit.

Two empty souls with a pair of runners on our feet. Once lost in solitude, now living a new breath of life. Resurrected from the real horrors of being single at this age and having minimal (LOL for me more like none)l social life. Solitude can be nice, but having someone to make it feel less suffocating would be nicer. We continue on our way, we have no real destination in mind at times. We're lost in thoughts together. A step beyond just the scary screen we enthrall our minds with. Talk about everything. Laugh about everything. Cry about all the things that weigh us down. We're human, if hollow, and need to feel accepted when we're at our most vulnerable point. Mental and physical affection, quiet conversation into the night and feel the comfort that we are there for each other.

The tone of this post might lean more towards the downer side, make no mistake, I do have a penchant for humour. Not to toot my own horn, I mean it's not like anyone else is currently, I am pretty good at it. The humour, not the horn tooting. Although... Ahem.... uhhh let me circle back on track. Yes. Humour. I combine it a lot in my everyday interactions. At work with coworkers. At home talking to my friend online. I can run through an entire storage room (in my mind) of Simpson's references and quotes at will. My humour is like muscle memory, it just happens. It's more situational. Anyway, I'm rambling a bit too much now, so just know that I do like to laugh.

I like to read about all the cool things in the world, I ingest a moderate amount of current events to keep up to date, and don't use social media aside from this website. I've collected things in my life, but due to downsizing I got rid of my dvd and music collections :/ Thank goodness for streaming. I still have a bin full of books and other items though, and I still have my old collection of Magic Cards from the 90s. Sorry I haven't played in nearly two decades...holy crap, it's been a while..so if you do play, you can school me good and then we can laugh about it. If you don't well let's just forget I even mentioned it. I have some old comics, I used to play a lot of PC games and sort of fell out of that hobby on a consistent basis. Now it's only an occasional activity while keeping in touch with a friend online. Don't worry I would never ever make you watch me play or listen to me go on and on about it. If you're interested, go ahead and ask, but I'm more old school for that.

Other randomness: My favourite colour is blue. My favourite non-horror media is Star Wars A New Hope, although I'm not a devoted fan of the series as a whole. I drink my coffee black, and sometime sin a mug. I've been known to also enjoy a delicious tea. Even though I don't want kids, pets are cool. I am so out of the loop when it comes to Marvel stuff, and the amount of content they expect newcomers to watch just to get caught up is beyond ridiculous. I'm not big on traveling. My taste in music growing up varied from metal to ska and even electronic. My favourite band is the Misfits, I've been to a Marilyn Manson concert, and I've also seen The Ramones perform live. That was awesome! I wouldn't necessarily call myself a nerd, others might and have. I'm just who I am. You be you, I'll be me, and we can coin toss for who gets to be the small spoon.

At this point I think I'm just dragging it out so I'll proceed with my closing arguments. I want us to share the important qualities we're looking for, but compatibility isn't guaranteed. I don't expect us to agree on everything or share the same views as a whole. I'm open minded enough to believe that couples can disagree on things and love each other anyway. I don't expect and immediate meet up, nor do I want an endless exchange through email. As our comfort level grows, we can decide how we progress. That might be sooner than expected, or if we don't click at all we can part ways as friends. I will leave it at that for now, but there is a lot more to talk about, so let's get this monster mash brewing!

Thanks again for taking the time to read all this if you did. If you're feeling like taking a chance, reach out, say hello, and tell me what your favourite colour is..

Take care,