Hi, I hope you're doing well today. So I am in the market for a new boyfriend. Kind of like grocery shopping for just the right guy. Not easy to find, some are very spoiled and others put themselves to the front when they are not quite ready.( some spoiled ones do this too)

So I am looking in the middle for that guy who has been through a few things in life but not so much that it makes him feel entitled or bitter. A guy who has learned from each interaction he has been through and has grown from it. That he doesn’t see them as negative but a learning experience in the journey he is taking in life.

I see myself walking on a road. There are many paths I could take. What I like is for a guy to come along with me and share in the walking experience from good to bad things that we both might come across. There will be times where he will have to be the stronger person and other times he may need a rest and I will help out. At times we both have to work hard and other times we can just relax and take in the scenery. I do enjoy learning new things and what he may of been through in his life.

So I believe in growth as an individual and as a couple. Supporting each other when needed but also knowing when to step back and both do our own thing. There will be times we want to talk a lot and other times we will just want to be quiet. Both making an effort and both being our own person. There will be compromises along the way we both know is part of a relationship.

Request:

Males I am interested in men.

Age is a number what you have been through in life makes you into a person. I say the types of responsibilities you have had to deal with makes you an adult. Finding out if were both on the same page, can hold a conversation, and have the same goals/values is actually the important part. If we don't match up it wont work. You might be on a different path then me.

So about me:

• Never married
• No children ( haven’t really been around children at all/ 0 clue about them)
• Single for the past year now and the last relationship was very brief, only a few months.
• Don’t smoke anything (prefer you are past that and don’t I hate strong smells)
• No drugs
• No criminal action against me
• Drinking like once a year maybe one drink. Never been drunk and I hate the taste of alcohol.
• I like sci-fi stuff- lets talk about it. Anime, Star Trek, Star Wars, Bollywood, K Dramas, Documentaries Aliens/Egypt/ True Crime, and 80’s B movies. I really am all over the place when it comes to my movies and music.
• Music: 80’s, Alternative, 50’s, and EDM
• Like talking about why people do what they do and wanting to actually know about your past that made you into the person you are today. I find that interesting the life choices other people have made and their regrets. Why I enjoy history and the choices they made.
• Not overly religious, more spiritual so don’t care if you believe or not. You do you and if you're religious really into it….we might get into arguments.
• Open so just ask away and I do have some kinks as well for those skimming through this looking to see if I am into that. I do have some kinks that I am not afraid to discuss with a guy who wants to date me. I believe in a well rounded relationship though and like an emotional connection with the guy I am seeing, so sex tends to come a bit later on once we have built some trust between us.
• Not overly political so won't be talking about it much but I am more liberal but I do have a mix of conservative in me too but lean pretty liberal.
• I am aware- that is someone who realizes how long they have left on this planet and how precious time is. My love language tends to be quality time, words of affirmation , touch, acts of service, and then gift giving.
• I like to travel more. I have done a little bit of traveling when I was younger but haven't traveled in a while.
• I am a crafty person- someone who sees other stuff and is like….I could make that or I could use that in my next project. Goes out, buys it, works on it for a bit and sometimes something is made and other times it’s half finished and then later tossed.

When not watching movies or some series I enjoy being outside.

• So hiking
• Going to the gym 5 times a week/ 6
• Camping
• Random road trips to events in the area that I can go check out. Not so much into crowds but for certain things I will do it but for other things I tend to avoid too many people.
• I am not into sports even though I played a lot of different types when in school ( so you go have fun with your friends) but do enjoy the gym lifting and Zumba.

Thinking of getting a bike to go ride at a park for this summer but don’t bike at the gym.

You live far away?

YOU live far….far …far …away maybe on the other side of the US or in another country. Well I want to be real with you. You have to have the money to come see me. If you're the type of person that travels all the time and hoping on a plane is as easy as ordering a pizza for you. Great, then you can come visit me. I don’t make that kind of money and it takes me a few months to save up to travel to you. So I am not saying I wouldn’t travel to you but you won’t see me that often.

• In this world people once they get into each other…want to see each other a lot.

I can't just drop everything I am doing and just run off with you. I have responsibilities that I need to arrange in order to go run off with you. Hey I love to go run off with you but let me make a few arrangements first give me a year and then I can go run off with you/ make a life with you.

So if you are looking for someone to run off with you tomorrow…not me, remember I am 40 almost to be 41 in the spring you tend to gain responsibility the older you get and especially if you're not married and a single female.

So let's chat and see if we have anything in common. As you can see I love to talk but I also like to listen and learn/ care about the guy I will spend my time with. So if you're not into reading a novel then we won't work out. I enjoy talking on the phone, facetime, and will exchange a photo fairly soon because I do believe you need to be attracted in some way to the person you plan to date. Sometimes it’s their voice, the way they move, their smile, their eyes, or just something about them when you see them that makes you want to know more and other times those thing make you not want to talk to them either.

Talk to you soon….