Hello and Happy New Year. I have had some lovely conversations with men in Reddit who responded to my last post. (Thank you to each of them.) Sadly few were local to my area. And those responding who were local, were either not single, not monogamous or were too close to my adult son's age (late 20's). So I'm writing an updated post to try again.

I would like to find someone compatible for a long term relationship that is female led in a gentle way. This is something I have unconsciously had in a couple of past relationships. Consciously exploring this dynamic is fairly new to me. So I will have a learning curve.

I'm a gamer, crafter, sci-fi enthusiast, retired, cisgender, monogamous woman. I am divorced.

I have an invisible disability that impacts my immune system (and my ability to travel distances alone) so I do need you to be fully vaxxed and boosted, and willing to wear a mask in crowded indoor public spaces. You should also be a DDF, non-smoker.

Because I am demisexual, I need to have an emotional connection with someone (such as friendship or admiration etc.) before I can feel attracted to them romantically, physically or sexually etc. And building this connection takes time. I do not build such connections well over distances or via just chat or phone calls. I need to spend in person time doing things together on a regular basis. So you need to either live or work in the DMV or have the time and availability to travel to me on weekends, and at least occasionally on weekdays, for in person outings. These outings can be simple things like taking walks together, sitting and talking together in a public place, grabbing a bite to eat or browsing places like bookstores, craft stores, hardware stores etc. Bonus points if it's a trip to a local gaming store! The more low key, low pressure the outing, the better.

I am drawn to men who present as masculine in their day to day life (this doesn't mean you must be muscular or a body builder type etc.) but crave being cuddled and nurtured in their private life. I am quite fond of dad bod builds and of shy or introverted men (these are preferences not requirements). Since my divorce, I have had more success dating interracially. (Prior to my divorce I dated black men exclusively including my former spouse of 25 years.)

My physical details: I am 5'5" tall, 202 lbs (size 1X), curvy build, 44DD. I get compliments on my legs and my smile. I have a bit of a tummy but am not BBW. We can exchange SFW pictures once we've chatted a bit. I am fully vaxxed and boosted. I wear masks in public. I am a drug free, non-smoker who rarely drinks.

My outlook is generally positive, upbeat, and humorous. I am not compatible with negative mindsets, or perspectives that denigrate others based on their belief systems. I am NOT politically conservative.

My personality is friendly, nurturing, warm, protective, affectionate, resilient, playful and creative. I communicate directly and openly.

My personal interests include: PC gaming, crafting, weaving maille (armor, jewelry etc.), cosplay, pinball, nerd conventions, movies (action, superhero, comedy, sci-fi, musicals etc.) reading, dancing (I don't claim to be good at it😆), painting miniatures, trying new foods. I would enjoy learning about your hobbies or interests as well.

Please use a DM should you decide to reply. Thank you.