I am looking for my person. He seems to have wandered off. I hope to tempt him to appear with texting and scones. Or cookies. I love making cookies.

Oh, if moon were a cookie.

Really though I need an extrovert to adopt me and help me spread my wings, haha.

Joking aside, I'm a fairly self aware human girl. I'm an ambiverted, giggly writer, lover of dogs, and a cinephile who loves to nerd out about a great indie film, gets excited about blockbusters, and really enjoys longform TV series done well. I also read, a lot! All of the fiction!

I've been single more than I've been partnered in this life - mostly due to having a glacial pace when finding those romantic feelings (ayeee demisexual checking in!) and having a high abundance of self love; which means I won't settle for just anyone. But I know I have a lot of love to offer the right man. Need a Big God to hold my love.

I'm looking for that spark - the connection that can lead to more. The piece of my missing puzzle that I've been unable to find.

I have no time for games or bullshit. Even so, I will say that I am a bit lonely, a bit isolated, and definitely tired of just having long conversations over text or in-person with my dog, haha. I want someone to glob onto, in as healthy a way as that makes sense.

I need mutual support and encouragement! My mental health is absolutely precious to me and I've worked way too hard to settle for anything less than that. Show me them therapy receipts, please, haha!

I'm way, way into music and think music videos are some of the most beautiful art forms around. If you're one of those fellas who likes musicals & pop music intermixed with old cowboy songs, emo feels and disco dance numbers... umm, marry me? Haha.

What I can bring to the partnership:

• Bubbly introversion with fierce loyalty.
• Emotional availability and maturity.
• Dogs. I want to pet them all. All of them I say.
• Independent, deep and philosophical thinker. I love talking about religion (all kinds), space, philosophy, art, movies, gardening, dogs, concerts, books... wanna start a two person book club?
• Attention and freetime. I have a lovely job I like a lot, but other than the dog, it's just me over here. Entertain me. Let me entertain you, haha.
• Stable career, hard working, and aspiring author/podcaster (okay what millenial isn’t? Hey wait where are you going?!)
• Vulnerability, kindness and compassion.
• Doggo & garden pics. Hiking too, when the weather gets better! You see Kodachrome, you see pink and gold. 💖
• Artist. I do lots of textile work and paint with watercolors. I make my own Christmas card every year to send to friends.
• Discord movie nights (or game nights? I just got back into Classic WoW. I missed it so much!)
• Voice and video calls.
• Adorable selfies 😂.
• Gifs, memes and pop culture references

I am childfree and am looking for someone who has no or limited family drama. What I mean by this is, my family of origin was extremely abusive, and I have gone NC with them for the indefinite future. I'd prefer to be with someone with a healthy family, or has worked to achieve similar boundaries in themselves with situations that aren't good for their mental health, regardless of "oh, but it's your XYZ..."

What I absolutely do NOT want to deal with :

• Children. I am childfree, and do not want to raise your children, or any of my own. -Someone who never wants to take the relationship IRL. LDR's are relationships on hard more, but I also believe that my person may not be local to me.
• Non Monogamy of any kind. When I choose you, I choose you. So choose me back.
• Boxing out/Ignoring key parts of conversations😶
• Lack of effort /reciprocation
• Codependent/Needy/Clingy behavior. Even I can get this way at times, but knowing when and how to ask for appropriate space, what that means, and what that looks like, is really important to me.
• Lack of empathy, sarcasm and /or passive aggressive behavior.

What I'm Looking For:

-My partner, my monogamous penguin, my BFF. Someone who is my equal, and will give as much as they take. -Someone who is actually single, and looking to start something real with the right person. - Consistent communication, not constant! Be dialed in enough to know what this means and should look like. - Emotional availability and maturity. - Naturalist/Emo/Science/Punk Vibes. -Movie lover, concert attender. Being into the same type of music would be a huge bonus (emo/alternative/pop). -Please like roller coasters. Or be able to go to theme parks with me so I can get my fix, even if you want to sit them out, haha. - Someone 420 friendly (I had a problem with it for awhile so I am more of a sporadic user, and would prefer for you to be the same, as opposed to habitual, but everyone has a different relationship with it). -Ideally: sober from alcohol, or a very occasional drinker. I never cared for it, and my family of origin is rampant with alcoholism. I just don't want to be around it. Thanks for understanding. - Artists, musician, writer (or any creative brains like me 😁) - A gentle, easygoing lad. A sweet guy, who traditional views of masculinity may not always apply. Being comfortable in your own skin goes a long way, here.

I'm burying this towards the bottom - but I've peppered a few pop culture references in here. If you're able to get any of them.. oh boy do I want to talk to you, haha! Even if you don't, message me the last song you had stuck in your head, and why, so I know you've read this whole thing (get used to it, pal, I'm a writer! haha).

Looking for someone 28 to maybe 55? This seems like a weird thing to put a qualifier on since who knows who my person actually is (hello? major tom? you there?), but I tend to think I get along better with personalities and souls, rather than age - yet there's still a comfort boundary here.

I enjoy longer messages and meandering missives, though I'm also keen to jump to another platform and chat early on, if we hit things off. I'm a midsized queen (curvy 😉 ), 5'6", Brown hair with gray and sunkissed highlights, english rose complexion, big smile, big laugh. I like to know who I'm talking to, and attraction is important to me, so pictures are welcome and more likely to encourage a response!