Hello Reddit - you may have seen me before (or maybe not). I've found some amazing friends through here, some of whom I dated first, but I'm still looking for the right primary partner. I'm patient though. I'm about fitting the RIGHT fit not any fit. If you're close to what I'm looking for and I'm close to what you're looking for, maybe message and we'll see what happens. I've made and kept friends for years from here and am interested in long-term, real things. Some of us won't connect though, and that's ok. If you make a decent attempt to communicate with me, and it's clear that you're into me as a person (and not just as a random female redditor). There are no secret tests. Just be into me and be honest about who you are. Let's see if we like each other.

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I'm 42, from Seattle originally and living in Winston Salem, NC. I miss home, but I can afford to live here and that's nice, so..... capitalism? I've made a few friends here, but dating's been a bit harder, so I'm trying to widen my net a bit. I don't want a "perfect" person though. I want a flawed person. A real person. A person who wants to know themselves and who wants to know me. I want to fit well with someone. I'm interested in making genuine connections, but less so about what kind of connection that will end up being. I am not looking to force anything at all. I can be a very supportive (if somewhat opinionated) friend, but your life is yours to do how you want. If you'd like to be with me while I go through my bullshit, I'll be there with you for yours.

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Possibly relevant details about me:

Vulnerable/open, fat, confident, anxious, accepting, outgoing, kind, sarcastic, understanding, witty, underemployed, overeducated, non-judgmental, irreverent, empathetic, I enjoy physical touch immensely, neurodivergent (ADHD), into board/video games, adorable, melancholy, sensual, introvert-friendly extrovert, hilarious, I speak (write/read) a little German, sympathetic, low-key into computers, easily distracted, uninhibited, pottery thrower, interested in personal growth, responsible, caring, flexible, 420 friendly, verbose.

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Things about you that might possibly be really exciting to me: Vulnerable/open, between 30-45, you are literally any size (I'm sometimes particularly attracted to slender/skinny men), you enjoy talking, genuine, from literally anywhere (although local people are the most desirable for obvious reasons), you look pretty to me (don't try and decide if I'll like you for me), altruistic, hilarious, neurodivergent (I often connect very well with others who have ADHD or are on the Autism spectrum), German-speaking, video/board game playing, you have unique physical features, fun, you're a nerd, you are nurturing and kind, and probably a bunch of other stuff. I like a wide range of physical features in people and I'm sure you're gorgeous, whether you think so or not. :D

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Things about partners I have a hard time connecting with: If you don't enjoy some indoor down time - I love going out, but not all the time. If you're stupid into sports - Nothing wrong with it, but I just don't get it.

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Deal breakers: Must treat all people with empathy. Don't be elitist, condescending, or conservative. Must be open to something possibly leading to a primary partnership.

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Thanks for reading all of this. I know it's a lot, but I really hope to find an incredible person someday. Maybe it's you. If you message, please don't try to impress me. Just be honest about who you are and what you're looking for. Having the courage to do that is impressive. I respond to messages somewhat slowly so that I can get a chance to know people. Please be patient with me. We may not talk in the next day or even this week, but we will talk. Messages or chat are fine, but I would eventually like to connect on discord.

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If it's been a while and you see this, feel free to say hi and I'll give you an update. :D