It’s been a year this week since my divorce. I’ve gotten to know people since then- all of them from reddit. I made profiles on dating apps even though I wasn't looking to date right away. I never got into those apps. The tinder model of meeting people is absolute shit for sharing some honesty. A picture may be worth a thousand words, but I still prefer a thousand words to see someone.
So I post on reddit. Like an anonymous public journal. Letters to no one. Words to the universe. Thoughts to the void.
And sometimes the void talks back.
I’m thankful for conversations I’ve had on here- even those that were just for a night. Earlier this year I realized how much sharing and listening have helped me process and grow– and continue to do. For me personally, simply talking to you was much more productive than therapy. I know how different I am from 6 months ago, 12 months ago and 10 years ago.
They say take things a day at a time and that’s good advice. But I'd add this: don’t take measurements each day. Because from one day to the next, you can have a lot of ups and downs. And if today makes me spiral down some since yesterday, it’s easy to get discouraged for tomorrow. So I like to look at things a week at a time. Or hell, a month at a time. That’s a fair sample size for even the shittiest times. Am I doing better than I was a few weeks ago? Yeah, I am. A little. And that’s more than enough to stay encouraged.
If this means something to you, I’m here. And if we ever should know each other (or have) if just for a night, I am grateful for you, my friend.
Happy Thanksgiving.
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