I think in order for anything to have a real chance at developing, both parties need to approach from a place where they are each unique, satisfied individuals who are looking for someone to share their time with while maintaining their sense of 'self'. In that sense, I'm not looking to be completed or to complete someone.
I love to learn about other people and I'm happy to explore their interests alongside them. However, I'm also fine with someone I'm involved with having 'private interests' that I only hear about via conversation. I wouldn't demand someone take an active interest in participating in everything I'm passionate about but I would appreciate someone who enjoys my excitement regardless. I can gaurentee that I'll be supportive and interested in your passions, having the same from someone else would be excellent.
I work at a popular museum in Boston and live about 40 minutes north of Boston along the coast. I spend my days up close with priceless works of art and am lucky enough to be entrusted with handling and caring for them. I enjoy my job and find the physical and mentally challenging nature of it very rewarding.
I currently live alone with my pets. I'm an animal lover, and while circumstances have led me to have a few more pets than I'd probably have under 'ideal' circumstances, I do love all the misfits. I have two dogs, two cats, two birds, and a 55 gallon fish tank (soon to be 75 gallons thanks to an impulse purchase) with assorted fresh water tropical fish.
My love of animals also translates into a love of the outdoors and nature in general. I'm not an accomplished hiker, and haven't hiked all the peaks in NH or anything, but I do enjoy getting outdoors and enjoying the various nature spots around me. Sometimes I take my camera with me and find a lot of joy in snapping photos of wild life.
I'm also a fan of enjoying nature by bike, or in a kayak.
I'm a sci-fi/fantasy fan and enjoy most things associated with those genres. This is one of those areas where I wouldn't NEED someone to share this interest with me but if I'm excited about a book or show I wouldn't want to feel tuned out babbling a bit about it, ha.
I'm a reformed gamer. I used to play almost all the various MMORPGs through the years but I just don't have the time to dedicate to it. I've picked up a few games that can be played solo over the last few years and definitely have some favorites. It's nice to be able to enjoy a game for an hour or so and put it down and not be beholden to some four hour raid on a dungeon!
I like to try and stay creative, photography has been the thing I've spent the most time with the last couple years. I won an honorable mention for a photograph of a nuthatch at a local fair, I know, very impressive! I do have a degree in fine arts and I've had varying levels of success 'creating' in my free time with my limited space, and assortment of tools and materials.
Speaking of free time, I work a second part time job. I work about 60 hours a week, and I have three long 18 hour days. Definitely a fact I feel I should disclose. I like to think I'm responsive and entertaining via text and I would certainly make what free time I have a priority for the right person. I also need some alone time, not specifically from my partner but just from people in general. Someone confident enough in themselves to be ok with those things would be important.
Also, because I know physical attraction is important, I'm 5'7" and 'stocky'. Not every woman's ideal, which I totally get! I like to say, self deprecatingly, that I'm short, dark, and homely, lol. You're welcome to judge my photo harshly, haha.
If you're interested in talking more I'd love to hear from you. I'd ask that you please send along a link to a photo as well, in reciprocation of my goofy pic. As I noted in detailing my appearance, physical attraction is important to me as well. I know that isn't always a popular opinion and I definitely have no illusions about being a 10 myself, ha!
While I wouldn't write off starting something long distance, if there seemed to be a really strong connection, I'm definitely focused on finding someone close enough (or motivated enough to travel) that we can meet in person.
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