Hello! I’m Sara, 37F, 5’11”, cis, queer, monogamous, childfree (and plan to stay that way), and live in New Mexico, USA. This is my face.

Get cozy with a cup of tea because my overshare in the hopes of meeting my person has turned into a novella–

First things first: I love where I live for many reasons that I’m excited to share with you if we happen to connect. I don’t really want to leave where I live for the foreseeable future. However, I’m open to relocating if I happen to fall in love with someone who lives somewhere exceptionally cool, with easy access to loads of nature (NZ, Lake or Peak Districts in the UK, etc.)

Second, I’m very outdoorsy. Every day I’m outside hiking or walking for at least an hour. I camp, backpack, bike, snowshoe, cross-country ski, kayak, paddleboard, stargaze, birdwatch, picnic, rockhound, volunteer, and I’m always exploring new ways to engage with the natural world (bikepacking, anyone?)

My weekends are a nice mix of lazy downtime at home and adventure. 10-mile day hikes, road trips to check out some cool Ancestral Puebloan ruins, hike and soak in hot springs, camping, attending wildlife tracking workshops. I also love activities like eating at nice restaurants and hole-in-the-wall spots, private soaks at spas near Santa Fe, theater, concerts, museums and cultural events, and travel within the US and abroad a few times a year. I love all kinds of art and have a range of creative hobbies I dip into when the mood strikes, everything from photography to stained glass making, painting (badly), and sewing. My self-care routine includes watching trash reality tv and documentaries, hot baths, yoga Nidra, stretching, cleaning, reading, and journaling.

Some other things you should know about me before reaching out:

After being single for the majority of the last 3 years, I really like the active, colorful, and simple little life I’ve created for myself, and I miss sharing it with someone.

I’m independent, live alone, and have a full-time career that affords me a healthy work-life balance and the ability to work remotely more often than not. 

Currently living in a mid-sized city, but my preference and goal is to live more rurally, within 20 minutes of a city.

I care more about quality time and experiences than money and things.

I’m a “feelings” person (INFJ), emotional, compassionate, passionate, and warm. I have a goofy streak and my sister once described me as the weirdest person she knows. I’m also stubborn, fiery and sensitive. I have a high level of empathy and a lot of love to give. 

I’m deeply curious and interested in people. Love asking and being asked questions. I'm not a great storyteller but I'm an excellent listener.

Physical touch is important to me– I’m a very physically affectionate person and love all aspects of touch. Long distance is not my top choice because of this, but the dating pool around me is basically a box of cornflakes. So, here we are.

I believe that good communication is one of the major keys to a relationship’s success. I am willing and able to put in the sometimes uncomfortable work and expect my partner to reciprocate effort.

Autonomy is another important aspect of a healthy, successful relationship in my opinion. I want my partner to have their own friends and hobbies, and to feel comfortable spending time away from me. A partial life eclipse is ideal. A total life eclipse is not. 

I love my small group of friends, though I’m introverted and need a good amount of alone time to feel my best.

I don't drink often, and I don't use drugs regularly, but I may use cannabis or psychedelics on very rare occasions. I don't mind if my partner does these things responsibly on occasion, but I probably won't get along with someone who makes any of them their entire personality.

I have a wacky and rare neurological disorder that sometimes makes my life less cool, but I’m currently in “remission” and may be lucky enough to stay that way - tbd. 

I’m a leftist (trump supporters - byeee) who doesn’t like talking about politics, but I pay attention, contribute to causes I care about, and want the best for my community. 

Oof, this all feels so self-indulgent. So it goes.

Who I’m looking for:

I’m not going to put a hard box around this, but you’ve got to be into the outdoors in a major way, as well as open-minded, curious, stable, kind, and thoughtful. We’ll probably connect well if you read all of that and thought “hey, that’s kinda like the life I have!” or at the very least, the kind of life you’re interested in moving towards. And if that’s the case, shoot me a dm and tell me a little about yourself! Bonus points for a pic.