Is your heart too big for some people to handle? Are you a loyal man with lots of love to give? Have you been hurt but just want to find love again? Do you like kisses and cuddles? If you answered yes, you may be eligible to be my future one and only. No, this isn't an infomercial or sub seeking post (they wouldn't allow my sex jokes). And no I don't want to be your mom or own you. This was just to get your attention like the good goldie you are or make you randos clicking chuckle in a wtf am I reading moment 🤣😅

Hi! I'm 33 yo, 5 ft 7", Trans/Non-binary, She/her/they/them, Taurus, Asian, Chubby, Almond eyes, Big lips, High cheekbones, Huge forehead, Huger thighs (I'm being funny but not really), college educated, Liberal leaning, employed, insured, in good legal status, and healthy besides getting fatter since covid ended whatever years ago. Don't get me wrong though, I'm pretty and sexy when I want to be and I have a healthy self-esteem so no doormat attention seeker here. I won't Jerry Springer or catfish you unless one of your bucketlist is to be on a reality tv show too. Willing to swap pictures with and without makeup but message me now before superficial guys see that I'm actually kinda cute when I repost with a picture or lose 30lbs. You know what won't be lost? This personality 😌 Or maybe I'll never repost if I find someone worth not reposting. It could be you just saying 🤷🏻‍♀️ Anyway, I have an odd, dry and self deprecating (sometimes dark) sense of humor if you couldn't tell by now. We will enjoy each others memes if you have laughed or smiled at any point.

So what am I really looking for? I'm looking for someone to talk to, game with, check in with, someone who cares about my wellbeing, etc. Vice versa. Honestly if you love aram in League or JRPGs and look nerdy and cute and really do have golden retriever vibes, you're definitely my cup of tea so tell me this and skip to the front. Be in the US. (Sorry tried and been with international men and not looking for something super unlikely.) Preferably you are close in age or you won't get the nonsense and references I make. Ideally someone who shares my same passion for human rights and being a decent human being. I can only ask and expect what I would be willing to give in return so if you love and respect me, you will get the same. If you disrespect me, you will get the same. I don't ever consider myself a saint because I'm more of a vibe type. Give good energy get good energy vice versa sorta deal. Ngl, I can be kinda sassy and snarky and have cheesy puns so hopefully you like that sometimes. I'm also a lets do it together as a team relationship type so if you're struggling, I'll step up. If I am struggling, I hope you'll step up. Being supportive and understanding is very important to me. I respond best to a gentle approach and don't like it when people cannot reciprocate communication and effort.

Why am I single? Being trans is not easy because you're either seen as an experiment or a check mark. Not cool! I just want someone who can accept me and the affection I can provide. I also have standards so I can't solely blame others. I'm not delusional or a narcissist but my standards are simple though.

Be attentive. Be caring. Be open minded to my culture and gender. Be kind and compassionate. Have a job because I do or at least be working towards something sustainable. You don't need to be making six figures but don't be a slouch because honey I'm telling you now I work for a non profit so if you are a booger miner then this isn't going to work. You don't need to own a home, I would prefer it if you didn't because ideally, I'd like to stay in the Midwest and build a home with someone here where I am close to my family. Family is important to me. That said, for the right person and connection, I can also see myself relocating but this may be a barrier or borderline dealbreaker if I am honest. Physically, I do like men who take care of themselves and have good hygiene. Average, tone or stocky men preferably. I don't want to feel like I will crush and hurt you but if you're lanky and willing to risk your life then dang thats kinda cute and I'm into it 🤣☠️🤣☠️. Short hair preferably. I won't lie, some bald men and long hair men are cute though. It just depends on your face I guess. Same height or taller preferably but if you a cute short kind then why not? Ngl, I like kisses and cuddles so if you have bad breath or smoke, thats a no no for me. You do not need to wear brand names or designer names. It won't impact how I view you. You don't even need to drive a fancy car. Personality matters more to me, but physical attraction is also important so I won't sugar coat that importance. Mentally, be stable. I don't care if you have a diagnosis, but be honest about it so I can make an informed decision. People live with mental health issues all the time and crisis and stressors happens but if you are persistently dysfunctional because of it, we are probably not compatible as I've tried that before and I'm not looking to put myself in that situation again. Emotionally, please be available. I've wasted so much time talking to men who thinks they are emotionally available when they are not. Often times they just want the emotional validation and gratification and the company without the weight and substance of a relationship. Socially, be charming and be interested. Tell me you care. Show me you care. Annoy me with multiple messages. Words of validation and affirmation is something I am big on. I want to feel desired and wanted. I think we all do. But I also want healthy boundaries so if I ask for space, respect it and then check in after a day or two.

I date with intention. To be in a committed relationship. Not to waste your time or mine or to explore my options. If I like someone, I am invested in getting to know them and seeing if more can come out of it. I don't date because I'm bored or lonely. I'm perfectly capable of entertaining myself. I want to be there for someone and have someone to do things with. I want to find my person.

So if this sounds like you, I would love to get a message and picture of yourself. This isn't a throwaway account so please use your real account as well so you don't start off on a redflag.

Have a fantastic day and if not, hopefully you had a good chuckle at this mess. It was a lot I know.

PSA, I do not talk this much in person. Bubbly but guarded is what I say. 😌