Dear you,

Hello. I'm Sato, nice to meet you. And I truly, honestly, hope that things are good over there with you. I hope things are great.

This is just another post that will probably get lost in a timeline of posts of people who are just looking out for connection. But such is life, and who knows? This might be my Lucky day!

Disclaimer¹: I’m looking for connection, as said above, and I throughly and firmly believe that love can only blossom from friendship. But I’m not looking for a friend only. I’m actively looking out for a partner. In the end, I’m looking for love. So if you are entangled with some recent breakup, or still with someone... or whatever, might make you not available...yeah. I respect it, I really do. But it is really not what I’m looking for right now.

Disclaimer²: There are exceptions to every rule, or so I have been told, but I do prefer someone in my own age gap/ range. I have never been someone to go after younger girls. I am really after someone who's in the same time in life as me. Building something, and ready to add someone into their lives. Maturity is really dear to me.

Cards on the table¹: from what I’ve gathered this is really important to say. So here it goes, I do drink ok? I like drinking. But I only drink beer now and than. I enjoy it. Only on the weekend though, and I`m really really far from someone who`s drunk all the time and all of that chaos. I`m just someone who enjoys a couple of beer on the weekend. It`s ok if you don`t.

Cards on the table²: if you go through my profile there are some interactions with the depression community on Reddit. Yes, I have struggled with mental health in the past. I’m 95%, if not 100%, recovered though. And I try now and than to talk to people who are undergoing what I’ve been through. It’s really tough, and sometimes a helping word can make someone’s day brighter. So if mental health is a red flag for you, than I’m definitely the wrong person.

Now, about me. Like I said, i’m Sato. I’m 35 years old, and wow, it feels weird saying it. I guess I’m irrevocably an adult (?!). On the bright side, that means that I’m at this point in life where things are clicking together. Finally. I know what I want, and I accept now who I’m. I have come to terms with the person that’s me. And oh, boy. That’s really precious.

Well, I’m an architect. And I love what I do. I really do. My career is very important to me. And I work a lot. My weeks are usually super crazy, and I spend all my energy towards my job. Which means that my weekends are a sacred time for me to recover my energy and strenghts. I love, and am passionate, about all that comes with, within and around, architecture. Art. Music, dance, poetry, reading and writing, drawing, painting and all else. It is just a delight.

Regarding my looks...well, I’m 35. I’m noto n my prime anymore, unfortunately. Well...I don’t know. It’s just that I definitely don’t look like a young adult. Anyway, that’s weird. Moving on. I’m half japanese. Mixed. And if it makes some sense, to westerners I look Asian and to Asians I look more westener. I don’t know if it makes sense to you, but that’s how people perceive me phisically. I’m 1,70m, wear glasses and I tend to smile a lot.

About my personality, I guess in my core I believe in respect and honesty. I dread bothering people. I dread being a nuisance. And I’m really empathic. I have always been. To the point where I understood that I have to be careful around people. To the point where I often seek solitude to recover and recompose myself from time to time.

Still on this topic, I guess what made me come to Reddit instead of being out there or on common dating apps Tinderlike, is that I need to take things slow. I can’t and won’t go on a date with you before something clicks between us. And the time needed for things to click, the time needed to get to know someone, is usually too long for people to really bother. Also I must add that I am getting myself back into the dating pool after a long while. It's been some time since I have last been in a relationship, for reasons that are better left for later (we can definitely talk about it in private, it is just that it is personal and I don't want to put it here). So I really need to take some time, take things nice and slow. So I guess it would be nice something LDR at first.

Long distance but not stopping there. What I mean is that...well, it’s 2025. We have tons of way of traveling and surpass physical distance. It is but a matter of wanting it or not. It is that simple, in the end.

Now to wrap this up, I really do hope to find someone. We can be both adults and agree on not ghosting one another, and just be honest if we don’t click. It’s ok. We can also be both adults and have a meaningful and respectful conversation, and who knows, maybe fall for each other. And maybe we’ll care for each other, and create something beautiful.

There’s so much more to say, but so little time. I also worry that if I write too much this post will be too long to read, but If I write too little it won’t be atractive enough. In the end all I can do is try, and have hope. Hope that you’re out there somewhere, and that this message get to you.