I think we can all agree that dating in your 30s is rough. So, let's skip all the BS and just say what we mean and mean what we say. I'm looking for my significant other. If you message me I just want it to be known that's the intended path. I still want to date and give time to explore each other before the serious talks happen, but what I don't want to happen is for us to be on month 3 and having made zero progress. I want to be discussing meetups after a few weeks and following through with said meetups after a few months. I've had too many great and amazing connections fall through because we just sat on the fence waiting too long. What are we even doing at that point? I understand wanting to take your time and it needs to feel right, but we're in our 30s; my hairline is doing it's best but it's prime is long gone. Let's enjoy our time TOGETHER, NOW, while we still have plenty of good years worth sharing. I'm just tired of tip-toeing around this weird paradox of a problem. You're lonely, hence the reason you're reading this, I'm lonely, hence me writing this... so let's do this? Simple math.

I'm shy on the first date, but won't stop cracking jokes on the second. You can measure my comfortableness by the number of quips I'm throwing around. I am a disabled veteran, retired; it's an autoimmune inflammation issue. I have a lot of free time on my hands and therefore get to enjoy most of my hobbies. Currently spending a lot of time in the gym, past few weeks I've been going 4-5 times a week. Currently at ~163lbs; at 6' that's 22BMI and I'm super proud of that. Yes, I value health; it gives me a sense of control over my body that the autoimmune stole from me. I read a lot. Currently on Rhythm of War by Brandon Sanderson. Life before Death, Strength before Weakness, Journey before Destination. Have a new found interest in Legos; girl from Frozen singing voice "Do you want to build a Lego?" Dabble around on PC video games but not super consistent; it's more about who I'm playing with than what I'm playing. So if you're a gamer maybe we can play something together while discovering each other over comms? I'm just not playing LoL. Ideally we're only a few hours apart. I'm not about flying to see you every month. And yes, when we get to the seeing each other part, I want to be visiting often. No more fence sitting. Sex is not the focus for my insistence on a real meetup. I'm demisexual so it takes me more than a date to get to that point. I just want this to feel more real.

While I am a pretty jovial guy there are times I may come off as overly serious. It's usually just me over internalizing. I also tend to match energy. If you're not putting effort into the relationship I will subconsciously match that. If I'm the only one engaging, the relationship will die; I'll do my best to lead but give a brother a hand.

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