Just like the title of the post says I would to talk about why most people here are not the love of their life they are searching for. I have been on this community for some time and I have noticed from personal experience and by just observation that most people are not successful when it comes to finding someone to love them. This is the case because of several reasons I will try to explain. First, I have noticed that some women (speaking from the perspective of a man) have so much on their list about the perfect person they want to find. This leads to failure because such men don't exist. No man can tick all the boxes in your lists because such a person does not exist and never will. Relationships are about knowing each other first and deciding to live with the shortcomings of the person who atleast measures up to most of wants. Minus giving a chance to someone based of them being short of something's you want in a man may rob you of an opportunity of having an amazing man who you have loved you ten times more than the imaginary dream man. Let's be realistic and move away from such acts. Dont be too picky, remember you are here to find someone because in real life things ain't going so well hence this option. So why look for mr perfect. Dont misuse your chances of finding someone. This advice also applies to men who are doing the same.

The second thing i want to talk about is, from experience is we have people who are just basically not serious with their intentions and search. I have noticed that someone will post here talking about themselves and what they want in a man but once the man tries his lack by sending a message, they never respond. This baffles me because why not just respond and let the person know you have no interest than make him think you maybe didn't see the message leading to the poor person waiting foolishly on you. This is a real definition of time wasting and a reason why certain people here will keep posting and never get the feedback they need. Never judge a book by its cover because their content within might be what you never expected. Gold is never found on the surface but instead you have to dig deep to find it. The first message one sends you should never be the point on which they are judged for be a fit or not because each one of us gets nervous and those nerves can make our message not as good the first time. But after we are comfortable a few messages later the writing turns out okay. Respond and never leave this person hanging like a fool after putting effort to reach out to you.

Thirdly, I feel some women and men feel they are just too good for anyone. This can easily be noticeable by their posts. You can easily tell from someone's post that a relationship with this person is not achievable. Please make sure your words displaying your wants and needs are achievable, your tone doesn't sound bossy and basically sound like a normal person and not a princess. Go through your post and make sure what you are posting about yourself is something one can say , " I think I am that person she is looking for " and not " I dont want to be trapped in that net of a relationship. " Check your post and check yourself never ask for things in a person that you yourself would never achieve if it was asked of you.

I would go on and on but lastly, this is me speaking as a man, women please dont ghost people. That act is amazingly unfair and it never makes you a good person. I get it you might be scared of what to say to this person because you are too nice or whatever but I feel a few words wouldn't kill you. Besides this is the beginning tell the person you are not compatible believe me it doesn't hurt as much as being looked down on and being ghosted. It shows no concern of the other persons feelings, it makes them seem worthless as they present themselves before your lofty throne of glory. Ghosting will never get you anywhere but at the same point having no chance of a relationship at all.

Let's be humble and treat others the way we want to be treated. Let's act like adults and maneuver the land of emotions to achieve our goals. Remember that you are here to look for someone who may fill that empty part of your heart with love which has not been achieved in the outside world. Let this option be a solution and not a failure leading to a lonely life alone. Time is ticking, we dont have forever on our side so let's act right now. I wish you all the best and may you find the love of your life and be happier than before. Love is a blessing no oke should ever miss out on. Take care.

Sorry in advance if I offended anyone but I was basically saying what I have noticed which may be different from others but I feel its the general experience of most people here. I apologize again if I offended anyone.