Feels like it, right?!

So apologies that this may seem a bit pretentious, but I'd thought I'd put some info out up front to save some of you some time. For the most part, Im not really interested in anyone younger than 35 (I'm really really reallyyy not interested if you're like 22. You're wasting your time trying to shoot that shot). Not interested in anyone married, not interested in a traveler who comes here for work, not interested in an online-only connection or just a chat buddy.

I'm a 41 year old single female in the Phoenix area (upper west side/far NW valley). Professionally employed, educated, mom of an older teenager (getting real close to 18!). I'm not sure exactly what I'm looking for, but I'd like to spend time with someone and see what develops from there. I want to laugh, eat all the good food, go on day trips and road trips.. I'm pretty sure that Phoenix is not my forever home and in the next 12-18 months or so, I'll be looking to make a move. That being said, if you have young children or aren't in a position where you could relocate at some point, we may not be a great fit. I'm big into sports, I'm a huge baseball and college football fan (GO BLUE!). I love to camp whenever I get a free weekend and enjoy nature pretty thoroughly :) I love ocean waves and the sound of the wind in the pine trees. Big Disneyland fan and I'm a coffee addict. Pretty sure my blood volume is 80% caffeine. I love live music and dive bars or sports bars and you're not likely to catch me in a dress and heels unless its for a wedding or a funeral. I'm pretty low key overall. I like to read, although I rarely have much time for it lately (but really want to check out War by Bob Woodward), and am into theater (just Saw Les Miserables again in December!). This is difficult, since Im in Arizona, but I'm pretty well left-leaning and I have no tolerance for MAGA politics or people who are racist, homophobic/transphobic and do not stand up for womens rights. I'm full-figured, but not bbw, attractive by most standards, long dark hair, fair skin, pretty eyes and smile, happy to share pics. I have zero, and I mean zero interest in video games, anime, horror, Harry Potter, Star Wars, comic books... most of what you could refer to as nerd culture. Can't relate.

This is always the tough part...What I'm looking for.. overall aged 35-45. Maybe a small amount of wiggle room, depending on overall fit. I prefer that you're truly gainfully employed, mostly clean cut (I can appreciate trimmed facial hair, but not into long beards), fit/athletic-dad bod type, and ideally caucasian or hispanic. No felons. No drug use. As mentioned, Im attractive by most standards, I need you to be attractive by most standards. Please don't message with just a hey or hi. I put a huge amount of effort into this post and I expect someone to meet me with effort. I don't access this account 24 hours a day so theres an expectation that if we communicate well, we'll move this off app. Again, I'm only looking for an in-person connection and not a chat buddy. If you're in the SE Valley/Mesa I likely cannot make this work.

Last, physical attraction is a necessity for me and I do have physical standards for a match and I expect that most of you should have physical standards as well. Not everyone is going to be my type, and I'm not going to be everyone's type myself. That's just the way the cookie crumbles. Coming at me with rude of hateful messages because you're not my type will get you blocked and or reported real fast.