I'm a plus size Asian trans female looking for a long-term and monogamous relationship. I know I am cute and pretty when I want to be. I can come off bougie because I like to look good and put effort into a date but I'm low maintenance most days lol. Makeupless. Lashless. You get the idea. Guys seem to like me just fine but for the wrong reasons and I often get sexualized or fetishized and that's not what I'm looking for.

I'm looking for a sweet nerdy golden retriever type guy who knows what he wants and is not afraid to be with me. I am level headed enough to know a relationship with me is not socially normative but you should be sure of who I am. I'm a hopeless romantic.

Please be in the same country and close in age. Please be in a point in your life where you are emotionally available for something serious and meaningful. Please be stable and not in some sort of life crisis or questioning. I want someone who knows what they want. Someone who loves cuddles and words of affirmation because thats my love language and I'm a caring person but want someone who can reciprocate that as I often feel I put in more effort than the other person. Relationships shouldn't be one sided and I like a deep emotional connection. If you don't bug me for my attention, or can open up about life and how things impacted or shaped you then we won't get along. I need someone with high emotional IQ. I like somehwhat needy guys who likes to talk every day about their work or excitement in their passions but can also take the time to ask questions and get to know me. I don't really like small talk especially early on when I want to get to know someone. I know I can come off kind of intimidating because I am honest and know what I want and deserve but I'm also humorous and sarcastic. When I care for someone, I will fight for them and defend them ferociously.

I think everyone has a type and physically, I prefer average to athletic body types. Someone who is put together and doesn't look like a slob but also not high maintenance and can still lounge around with me. That said, I am more into faces and care more about personality because thats what I feel connected to the most.

Some of my dealbreakers are if you have kids. This is not because I don't like or want kids but its just not the relationship dynamic I am looking for. Other dealbreakers include if you do drugs or are hyper religious. I'm not into that lifestyle and I'm spiritual and believe in doing good but I do not practice or believe in organized religion.

If we sound compatible, message me with what spoke out to you and tell me more about yourself :)