Hi, I'm Shawn. I'm 35 and live in a charming little town in Virginia, just a quick 29-minute drive from Harrisonburg. I'm on the lookout for people who are genuinely interested in building real friendships. If you're someone who values regular communication and meaningful connections, we might really hit it off!

I don't usually like to talk myself up—I don't think of myself as particularly fascinating or charismatic—but I'm eager to step out of my comfort zone. I'm ready to pursue authentic connections, especially when it comes to romance. So, if you're up for building something real, let's get to know each other!

I'm a traditional geek at heart, who still gets weak in the knees at the thought of exploring fantastical worlds. Whether it’s diving into a comic book or navigating the digital landscapes of video games, I find immense joy in science fiction, fantasy, and anime. Currently, I'm working on creating a Magic: The Gathering deck and love getting lost in a D&D adventure (though I'm taking a short break from that right now).

By night, I work as a security guard. In my downtime, I enjoy reading, writing fanfiction, and tuning into podcasts about Bigfoot, Dogman, hauntings, aliens, and other cryptids. While I don't participate in cosplay, I have a deep appreciation for the art and effort that goes into it.

I understand that LGBTQ issues are significant to many people. Personally, I wouldn't label myself as an active supporter of the community, but I firmly believe that everyone should live their life as they choose, as long as they're not harming anyone or involving children. For me, "Dude" is a gender-neutral term. So weather you identify as male female non binary or anything in between you'll still be my Dude

Socially, I'm open to the 420 culture, and I find it helpful for treating my insomnia, although I'm not deeply involved beyond that. Politically, I consider myself centrist, and when it comes to religion, I identify as agnostic.

At this point in my life, I’m really looking for genuine in-person connections with people who are straightforward and honest. I'm definitely not interested in running into deceitful cam girls or romance scammers trying to get my credit card info or convince me to buy gift cards. I want to meet people I can hang out with, make great memories, and spend quality time together. It’d be great if they lived nearby or are okay with some travel now and then.

I find that I generally connect better with women and am looking for friends within the 30-49 age range. But men are welcome too, especially if you’re single, not married, and don’t have kids—I'm just not up for being a third wheel.

So, to sum it up, I’m looking for friends who are like me: single, not married, and without children. Ideally, you’d be nearby or okay with occasional travel so we can meet up easily. Building meaningful friendships through shared activities and mutual interests is what I’m after.

I've also noticed that more people are looking for deeper connections and meaningful conversations, and some are even interested in video and voice chats. While I see the appeal of these interactions and understand why people might want to put a face to a name, I believe these kinds of connections should develop naturally rather than being forced. For those who really want to get to know me better, here are a few things about me:

                         THIS OR THAT

Tattoos:: none, can’t decide what I want and in my opinion if I’m going to get something permanent on my skin it’s gotta have some significant meaning to me

Piercings:: none

Do I Smoke:: Weed Socially

Do I Drink:: Nope

My Occupation:: Security Guard

Any Offspring:: no, And Don’t want any

Any Pets:: Dog and Chickens

My Religion:: Agnostic

My Lingo:: English, Profanity and Sign Language

Early Bird or Night Owl:: Night Owl

Bookworm or Movie Buff:: Bookworm

Board games or Video games:: Both

City or Country:: Country

Favorite Color:: Purple

Favorite Season:: Summer

Musical Taste:: Variety, but Meatloaf is my favorite and I don’t like blue grass

Favorite Video Game:: Mass Effect Favorite ME Romance:: Tali Favorite ME Class: Sentinel

My Zombie Apocalypse Plan:: "We get in my car, drive over to Mom's. We go in, take care of Philip. 'So sorry, Philip.' Then we grab Mom, go get Liz, go to the Winchester, have a pint, and wait for this whole thing to blow over." Gaming:: I'm all about video games, especially RPGs and sandbox games like Mass Effect and ARK: Survival Evolved.

                              DEALBREAKERS 

1. Little to No Effort: I understand Life gets busy, and I don’t expect immediate responses all the time, but I do hope for some genuine interaction, consistency, and effort to keep in touch. I’ll definitely put in the same effort on my end Friendship is a two-way street. If I'm always the one initiating plans, reaching out, or investing in the relationship, while you show little to no effort or interest, it quickly becomes exhausting and one-sided for me. Friendship takes work, and if you're going to waste my time with prolonged periods of not texting me, then it's probably best we aren't friends. Relationships require effort from both sides to thrive, and it’s essential to value each other's time and commitment. If mutual respect and communication aren't present, maintaining the friendship simply isn't worthwhile.

   1. Poor Hygiene: Basic hygiene is important for personal and social interactions. If a friend's poor hygiene regularly makes it uncomfortable to be around them, it becomes a significant barrier in developing a close and healthy friendship. I'm a bigger guy so I always make sure my Hygiene is on point, teeth brush, shower twice a week and deodorant.
   2. Irresponsiblity:: As a 35-year-old adult, I expect my friends to act like grown-ups. I'm not here to play the role of a mom or a babysitter. If you happen to get drunk and out of control occasionally and you're usually a good friend, I'll ensure you get home safely. However, if every time we hang out, I find myself dealing with your drunken behavior and having to wrestle your keys away from you like you're a defiant child, I'm putting an end to our friendship. If you can't manage your finances because you blew all your money on weed and then come to me for a loan, I'm cutting ties with you. I have nothing against smoking weed, but if you can't function without it and it's become an addiction, then I'm walking away. If you engage in petty drama on social media like a teenager, I'm walking away. I simply want people around me to act like responsible adults. I've outgrown all the immature antics reminiscent of high school drama.