Hi! I'm a turbo-nerd professional writer and game designer looking for a long-term relationship! 30s- no kids (past or future), no prior marriages, no addictive substances (except sugar). I know way too much about psychology, philosophy (got my degree in it), games (both board and video games), animation, and politics (pretty far left).

I'm mostly fit (though my cardio is garbo), slender, and 6'0, and I've been told I'm handsome if you like guys with shaved heads- Ideally would like to be with someone similar and generally around my age /- 9 years.

Someone curious, clever, and confident. Bonus points for people with gothy/punk/alternate styles, but that's not a dealbreaker or anything (I would like someone to help me pick out tattoos). No smokers, please! That is a dealbreaker.

I've been around enough to know what I'm looking for and not to settle. I strive for (and expect in return) open communication, honesty, a problem-solving attitude towards conflict, and compassion/empathy/understanding/patience. I grew up in an emotionally manipulative environment, and I've done a damn good job of breaking that chain, so self-improvement and being up-front are important to me. I've been called "the most real person I've met with online dating. While I can't promise you'll be into me, I can promise I'll be authentic. Communication has recently been a problem with prospective partners over the last couple years, so I want to stress that I'm not the right fit for someone who bottles something up until it becomes a problem or someone who doesn't approach their partner with the benefit of the doubt that they're trying to be a good person.

Definitely more of a homebody/introvert, but I like walks, swimming, working out, and indoor rock climbing.

I'm affectionate and mostly silly despite how seriously I take a lot of topics, and I try to view life with humor. That said, I have anxiety depression, the funtimes mental health combo. I'd prefer to be with someone who at least understands mental health issues since they've been pretty prevalent in my life. I definitely like a faux-combative dynamic with partners; I tease my partners (and love it in turn); Life's no fun unless we're being a little snarky to each other. Demisexual, so I'm mostly only into sexystuff after I get to know you pretty well (at which point, I'm a low-key switch/sub), but I get warmed up quickly to someone if we click just right.

I tend to be pretty quiet unless I have something to say, and I usually measure my words very carefully (to make sure I mean what I say and say what I mean, if you know what I mean). I tend to text in paragraphs (AS YOU MIGHT BE ABLE TO TELL), so fair warning. I'd ideally like to be with someone who can do comfortable silence sometimes. I just like existing with friends or partners, even if we're doing something totally separate. But when I'm passionate about something, I can talk your ear off. I try to be a patient, understanding, and kind person who takes responsibility for his mistakes and I try to grow from them. I'm not perfect, and I don't expect perfection. I just want someone who works with me, complementing my rough edges while I complement theirs. We're both human and we ought to give each other the benefit of the doubt if at all possible.

I'd love to play some games together or get to know each other over a more serious topic (not the biggest small-talker). Or hit me with a weird hypothetical question.

If you weren't driven insane by my writing style/density, please give me a holler! Let's be snarky weirdos together! Would really appreciate a picture with your message (just don't want to waste your time if the attraction's not there!)