If I’m being honest, long distance/online has done nothing but hurt me in the long run over the past few years. But, dating apps suck, and I’m more recently single after 2 years so this lets things go at a little bit of a slower pace. And I’m not one to let distance get in the way, even if I hate flying. About me? I’m a 30 year old guy from Iowa, smack in the middle of the country. Close to everything and nothing all at once. I’m 6’1, a big/plus size/fat guy whatever you want to call it. Currently on a weight loss journey, down about 30 pounds already. Still very confident in my own skin, and take care of myself, despite all that. I work, and I’m currently debating going back to school or moving to a management position. I can’t decide. I have long dyed hair, 9 tattoos and counting, and a few piercings. I don’t know if I have a style, I’m somewhere between aging punk/almost goth/hipster nerd all depending on the day. I plan on moving in the near future, whether that be across the state or across the country. I love reading, writing mostly short stories, cooking (will cook for you!), watching movies, and I’ve gotten back into drawing lately. I love being outdoors and just enjoying myself, too. Not religious, borderline spiritual in some sense. Ideally want kids one day, a family. Very liberal, very open about it. We won’t get along if you aren’t, sorry.

I’ve been hurt, but I’m still a romantic at heart. I want what all my friends and family have. I want the hand holding, cuddling, watching movies together and always spending time together kind of love. Where we can’t get enough of each other. My biggest love languages are quality time and physical touch, I am very affectionate when we build that relationship and bond. But I also understand that until things get very serious we’re both going to have our own lives, too. Communication is key, even if it’s not consistent. To be completely honest, my trust issues have gone downhill over the years, so please understand that. It’s not personal. I may take time to fully be comfortable with you, but I promise you will have my undivided attention once that level has been reached.

I’ve probably written too much for most people at this point, so I’ll quickly get into what I’d be looking for in a partner. Someone preferably mid 20s to mid 30s, give or take a few years. Iowa is preferable, but I am open to anywhere as long as the endgame is to meet in person and hopefully relocate if things get that serious. I’m even open to international, I need an excuse to get my passport. Someone who is kind, caring and understanding of those around them. I tend to go for the more artistic, outgoing, crystal loving, astrology reading, tarot type. While I do believe there needs to be mutual attraction, I want to know you for you. SFW pictures can be exchanged early if we want. Body type, height, etc do not really matter outside of aforementioned mutual attraction. If you’re interested in the mixed bag that is me, feel free to message me and tell me about yourself.