I'm 31 years old, live in NJ. 5'9", 165 lbs (fit/athletic build) 4th generation Asian American (my family immigrated here in the 1900s). My family is pretty whitewashed so I don't speak the language and probably eat more pasta than rice. College educated with a degree in Biomedical Science; currently working in the pharmaceutical industry and pretty much love the industry as there isn't any work drama and it's relatively straightforward yet challenging.

I've tried a few long distance relationships and they're quite difficult to manage...they were great when we able to meet in person and I didn't mind putting in the extra work. But this time I am feeling a little bit selfish and would like someone somewhat local so I can make surprise visits when they need a pick me up. I am pretty sure I fit the definition of a demisexual so I'll be strictly trying to form a connection first.

Personality wise I've been told that I tend to bring people together and keep things fun. I have a few different groups of friends and communities I am often with...and they can vary from the youngsters (21 to 30) to the old guys (60 ) to the group that's around my age. I would say I'm pretty good at conversing and I try to stay on top of most current events. Mentally I'm an old man and feel more more comfortable in that setting, so much that I literally hang out with 60 years olds at the gym after a workout in the hot tub. I call them the hot tub gang and it's always a set of regulars where we might talk about the same thing every single day until someone newer to the group says that we talked about it yesterday.

I would say fitness is a major player in my life. I started out hating swimming as a kid, but here I am almost 27 years later...I made it through the lessons at the YMCA, joined a club team, swam in high school, swam in college and now I'm a swim coach and instrutor as a hobby/side job in my free time. There's something about being a part of coaching people and watching them grow up and succeed that makes me smile.

My free time in the cold months usually consists of planning DIY projects or working on them. Or planning my next road trip to somewhere nicer. Whereas in the warm months I love going down to the beach to go for a swim and have a nice relaxing breakfast outdoors. I do have a few kayaks that i'll bring out to go with friends or if I feel its safe a nice solo paddle to clear my mind. When I think about it, too many of my hobbies involve water. But I do enjoy other things I promise!

I'm really looking for someone I can grow together with, a long term or forever relationship. I want a relationship where both of us put 100% in all the time and if we don't, we can talk to each other about our concerns and work it out. Honestly what I've realized is that maybe I am altruistic...I miss making someone feel happy and loved, I miss spoiling someone and the feeling of that feeling of seeing that look that you get when someone truly loves you. I would love to slowly get to know you by going on some casual dates at first, having conversations where we lose track of time and then maybe eventually settle down together and enjoy life together. I'm really searching for that genuine connection, voice calls are definitely a plus and would love to get to know you. It's alright if we end up just as friends that talk here and there. If it sounds like you could be the one send me a chat or dm and tell me a bit about yourself. My name is Kevin and I'd love to know about you.