I’ve tried this before but never really had much luck on here or the apps so I’m trying a different approach lol. Buutttt this is long shot and as my favorite paper salesman says “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”

I’m not looking for a one night stand, casual sex, fwb without the friends part, etc. Also not interested in low effort, one-sided nonsense or booty calls as the only form of communication.

I am bisexual but am completely inexperienced with women. I do have a preference for men just because that’s all I know at this point lol. But I would love to get to know any man/woman/trans/nonbinary who is interested in getting to know me. I am fully open to platonic friendships or maybe something casual with singles or couples. It doesn’t have to be anything crazy right from the start 😂

I’m a 30 year old plus-size (bbw, kind of ssbbw I guess?) woman in Columbia (Forest Acres area) looking to meet someone like-minded and hopefully local. While intimacy, a connection, and sex are all something I want, it can’t be with just anybody. In a perfect world, I’d find my soulmate and everything would just start to finally make sense.

Have you ever just met someone and everything just clicked? All the puzzle pieces falling into place, the most amazing mental, physical, emotional connection that just can’t be replicated with just anybody, feeling the spark on every level, really just connecting with someone deeply. That’s what I’m looking for.

I have a job that I love with long-term career goals, long distance friends who I miss a ton, my own apartment with my 3 perfect cats and my own car, and very close relationships with both my parents. But something is missing and I’m really feeling the absence of a partner in my life. While I am feeling ready-ish to settle down and I’m open to something more serious, I have no expectations. I don’t want to be in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship. I want to be with someone because they bring positive things to my life. I’m a firm believer that relationships should be beneficial, and the second it starts becoming a nuisance, it should be over. But that doesn’t mean I give up easily. And it definitely doesn’t mean I look at relationships as transactional, just that there should be more positives than negatives. I’m better at knowing what I want and placing boundaries that I can enforce, largely thanks to the interactions and experiences I have had so far in the dating/hookup world.

I’m very left leaning and non-religious. I’m working on losing weight and becoming more healthy but it’s a long journey combined with some long-term mental health issues I’ve had. I’m very much a homebody, most of my hobbies are stuff I do alone but would still love to do with others. I do crafts like crochet, embroidery, and learning to knit. I enjoy video games, reading, binge watching shows and movies. But the biggest thing is I love conversation. That’s been missing in my previous attempts. Small talk, teasing and banter, deep philosophical discussions, just hanging out and chatting. Smoking and/or drinking adds to the fun lmao. I guess I’d have to say my sense of humor is more dry and sarcastic, pretty crude and dark once I get comfortable. I’m really into history and science and love to talk about any of that at length. I’m a major environmentalist; I have 2 BS degrees (biology and environmental science) and work in the environmental field. One of my favorite things is driving around listening to music. Bonus points for having the windows down and blasting Taylor Swift 😂

As for the person I’m looking for, I don’t have any preferences other than someone taller than me (I’m 5’6). I’m very attracted to masculine energy but not toxic masculinity. I enjoy being with guys who make me feel feminine and pretty. Mutual attraction, respect, and communication are the foundations of any good relationship so all are required for me to build trust. I’m a very open-minded person and have a lot of respect and curiosity for people with different lifestyles than my own. I don’t get offended easily, but I do tend to lose interest if boundaries are pushed or disrespectful shit happens. I’m not a perfect person. I have many flaws but I’m aware of them and I’m actively working on them and I will always take full ownership over mistakes I make. I’ve been told I’m a pretty weird person, both as a compliment and an insult so I’m aware I’m not everybody’s cup of tea. And that’s okay because I know there are people out there who do love and accept me for who I am. And at the end of the day, isn’t that all that matters anyway?

I didn’t intend to make this post that long lol. I’m sorry for putting you through all that, especially if you were barely interested in the first place. But if you did make it this far and anything resonated with you, please reach out.

I am willing to send pics or videos for verification pretty early on. But come on, let’s be real. Ain’t no way a bot or solicitor would ever write all that 😂

Thank you for reading. And if you don’t want to reach out for whatever reason, I wish you the best and all the luck you find what you’re looking for.