Here is my attempt to be articulate but not too wordy...

Me: I am looking for a partnership. This means at the bottom of it all, we are still on the same team and always want to work things out together. I am striving to be better than I was yesterday. I'm always open to reflection and feedback and willing to change my perspective on something. I value connection and intimacy. I do my best to communicate and articulate concisely. If I'm confused, I ask questions. If I don't like something, I speak up. I have boundaries and I try my best to express them in a calm and clear manner. I try my best not to sugar coat things. Sometimes this comes off as blunt but I will try my best to fine tune this for the kind of partner I end up with. I am clever and enjoy humor and sarcasm when appropriate.

I'm a helper, I was raised by helpers and because of this I gravitate towards problem solving. I am a recovering codependent. I am independent. I have a job that I enjoy, and vehicles that get me where I want to be. I am in control of my life and how I react to things that happen to me. I love kids but I don't have any because I believe I have never been in a partnership stable enough to support a child and I also don't think this is a good time to be bringing more humans onto this planet. I am spiritual but wouldn't call myself religious.

Us: The relationship is more important than the disagreement. We don't have to agree on everything but we should respect and honor the other person's perspective or opinion. We must be willing to let go of ego and make repair attempts after disagreements. If we need time and space to process something, we ask for time and we say when we can come back to it. We don't leave the other person hanging and waiting. We understand it's okay for someone to change their mind about how they feel about sometime and we work with them to make it copesthetic. We check in however often we agree to and enjoy practicing gratitude with each other. We can admit when we're wrong about something and take ownership and grow from it. We cheer each other on because we see the value in accomplishments. Strong intimacy comes from trust.

You: You don't like being stagnant. You enjoy growing and learning every day. You enjoy talking on the phone or video chatting more than texting. Believes there isn't a right time for love, only the determination to make it work no matter what life throws at us. Authenticity is important to you. You believe shame is self-sabotaging and just not productive. You are confident in your boundaries and willing to express them before they are crossed. You are not afraid to tell someone No. You live and communicate with intention. You have goals and you strive for them.

I'm not really concerned about what you're into because I think if our values align, the rest will come along with it. I realize life is busy for everyone and I don't mind chatting for a few days but I do prefer to meet up sooner rather than later. I'm attracted to people that give a shit. People that are imperfect and comfortable with growth. I realize a lot of these values do and should overlap, text really lacks nuance unfortunately.

Since we will start off chatting, here is a brief list of text related personal peeves and why: I don't like "lol" it feels inauthentic and usually deflective. "Sure" feels indirect, indifferent and passive.

Thank you so much for reading all of this, I appreciate you taking the time to do so! If you'd like to chat with me, I'm eager to hear what your biggest dating peeve is!