Greetings! Thanks for reading this post.

I am looking to meet a thirty to forty-something that is only interested in a potential monogamous childfree partnership, and is located in and around the Toronto, GTA and/or surrounding area. The partner I'm looking for loves horror movies like I do, has a caffeine addiction that transcends the line between morning rush and evening insanity, is willing to look past my occasional run-on sentence structure and spelling errors, and might be a bit of an odd one, like me.

What a pair of odd ones they are. Two people sharing their lives. Runners on, hands held, eyes fixated on everything they pass by. Stopping for a while to look in the windows of shops, further along a small cafe. Inside the time slows as if approaching a black hole. The planet keeps spinning, time keeps ticking, yet inside the bond of these two people it feels like a joyous eternity. Back on their feet, time has already gone too far ahead. The two are in no hurry to catch up. Not ever a tidal wave could break the barrier between them and not them. Talking about this, that, references, feelings, laughs, tears, all of which is enveloped in comfort to keep the good feelings shine, and the bad feelings acknowledged, but not what breaks them. There is only them and future them.

I'm a huge homebody and don't go out much. Due to varying factors, including growing older, lives getting busier, and even after being away from folks for a long while, life slowly changed, staring even before the whole 2020's. I wish I could say for the better, but it's a lot more lonesome. Still being single at age 41 I find I'm more just going through the motions these days. Running on autopilot and wanting to make necessary changes in my life. It's taxing on the mind and emotional state. I want to keep the things that bring me joy and find someone who adds a whole lot more. Of course this is to be shared both ways equally since I am staunchly supportive of equality in a relationship. We can both wear pants or neither of us will wear pants. I'm not trying to sound like a downer in my writings, if I do, my apologies it's not my intention. It's normal for people to drift apart with families and obligations etc. I feel like I'm falling a bit behind the people I knew. I did spend time in my younger days going out and having some great laughs.

I have anxiety and socializing was never my strong suit. I always felt extremely lucky to have made the connections I did, experiencing the good times that have since passed, and having a small social life. Even though I've lost touch with people I know, I'm very happy for all of them, and I'm here to try and find my own happiness. With online dating, connections and the wide range of people able to interact with each other, it gets a bit overwhelming for me. I was never interested in a fling or hookup because sex carries a strong emotional attachment for me and I would be lying to myself if I stated otherwise. I feel writing a lot about me is easier to start, at least for the proverbial breaking of the ice. I'm not artist and can only paint the best picture of myself within my abilities. I know I have fallen into a bit of a viscous cycle aka a rut. I'm looking to make improvements here and there, but I am who I am. Finding someone similar might be a very tall order, but I'm patient enough to take my time. A long term connection is wanted, but the effort will need to be put in for us to maintain and reap the mutual reward: happiness.

I'm not looking for grand adventure, nor am I looking for someone to hide inside with indefinitely. There will be good blanket cuddling while watching our scary stories, low key fun outings with you like grabbing coffees or a tasty treat while having awesome conversations, walking and window gawking, people observing and letting our time together just be ours. I want mental and physical affection, quiet conversation into the night and to feel the comfort that we have each others backs. Call me boring or lame, that's no bother to me because I want to find my boring and lame counterpart. My equal. I'm not perfect and have flaws of my own which are enough to make me feel self conscious about trying to date, let alone share a relationship. The upside being that I am down to earth, content with the things that make me happy, and very comfortable with a minimum. I enjoy pizza enough to consider it weekly staple (I said weekly not once a week lol). Seriously though, I do eat it once a week, usually on Saturdays, and I wonder if you're the type to enjoy some with me? Maybe even on a Tuesday as well? There's always some cooking to be served hot and ready to us. If you want to chat about pizza, that's totally awesome. I'd like to chat about everything with extra toppings please!

5'10, very short brown hair, glasses, white, no facial hair, no tattoos, and approx. one hundred and sixty-something lbs. My attire is pretty much jeans, runners and a t-shirt. Alas all my old band tees have lost the battle against time and a washing machine. I still have one left, and it has a glow in the dark print on it. Just saying. I have several hoodies and white socks. I own two sports jerseys but I'm not a sports fan, as evidenced by me referring to them as sports jerseys. My job doesn't require me to wear formal clothes which works really well for me. Think jeans, runners and a collared shirt. Throw in a cardigan in the colder months and you've got me. I work in an office setting at a small business, but don't deal with the public in person. I don't have a lot, but I'm very grateful for everything I do have. I don't live alone, but with a roommate. I used to smoke cigarettes, but quit. Non-drinker and no other drugs except for a small amount of cannabis. It's seldom enough that even though I enjoy it, I don't consider it crucial to my day to day.

My time is mostly spent reading anything, watching horror stuff, going for walks around my neighborhood, and anything else that comes up. The majority of this post may have a very serious tone, so allow me to shift to a bit of humour. Not to toot my own horn, not that anyone else is currently...wait...ahem.. let me circle back to what I was saying.. I'm pretty good with it, the humour not the horn tooting...although... ah.. ahem never mind, so uh yeah, humour... Me and my coworker have a great time chatting and laughing together, and she told me she'll always remember those good times. I usually chat with a friend online and we always joke around when we do. I consider myself a young at heart type, or maybe I'm a late bloomer that's been deceived. I don't know which is true, but I can laugh about it. My humour is always situational and never forced. It's more like a muscle memory reaction than anything else. If we're walking down the street and I happened to trip on a raised edge of the sidewalk and fell, and you laughed, I'd laugh with you. I don't take myself too seriously and working to ensure the lows are only temporary, and medium comfort and great happiness occur more frequently.

Some other stuff:

I don't have many collections of stuff. I once had two large bins, one full of music and there full of movies. Due to downsizing they are no longer in my possession. Thanks goodness for streaming. I do have a bunch of old books, some comics, and even a binder with Magic cards. I haven't played in a very long time, and don't think that's something we'd get up to, but if you were really interested we could give it a go. Don't worry I won't bring it up and I may already regret mentioning it here, and even though I could just delete it, it's staying here for all to see. If you do or have played, you can mop the floor with me and then we can laugh about it. I haven't been to a concert in forever either. Loud music is not my first choice, so call me an old man that yells at clouds. I have been to a Marilyn Manson concert and I've seen the Ramone play live which was awesome. My favourite band is The Misfits, which happens to be the same one the shirt mentioned eons ago is for. Always a member of the fiend club! These days I just listen to old stuff I liked and am way out of touch with anything new.

I don't have much interest in the Marvel phase, and it's absolutely ridiculous the amount of content they expect newcomers to watch just to get caught up. I can dig mindless background shows or sitting and observing the outside world. I occasionally play video games with my friend online, and don't plan on talking about them or forcing you to watch me play. It's mostly a time filler with a social interaction aspect. I don't use social media other than this site I guess. Board games and card games like Crazy 8's, anything else that two can do together, I would love to take part in with you. Travelling is also not really my thing, but arranged time away can always be coordinated. I'd rather a night out at the cinema and a retreat to our blanket fort over anything else.

Long discussions where our minds embrace. Mental affection is just as important as the physical. Humour, understanding, compassion, and presence make the hearts fill with warmth. Lives are potentially filled with a bit of struggle; laughs shared and tears mixed. The foundation of a solid partnership is built on trust and it doesn't feel like a chore to put in the effort. Wanting to be by the other's side, as one, in a pairing of two lonely weirdos. Time slows down faster than this post made some folks fall asleep, we are wide awake in each other's embrace. No matter what the circumstances are, having an equal to walk the path with makes the future a lot less daunting. I don't think wanting to be accepted for who we are is too much, we can only be ourselves since we're only human after all.

This posting may have run its course, so I will proceed with my closing arguments: I don't expect us to agree on everything, couples can disagree on stuff and still love each other. Our compatibility isn't guaranteed, so I think a healthy beginning with some how do you do's and hey that's cool's are in order. I'm not looking for an immediate meet, nor am I seeking a pen pal. Something in the middle where we decide together how to proceed is the best way. Honest, respectful and genuine. I hope this post finds you well, if you find any of this resonates and want to engage in banter f hit that reply button over there somewhere in some menu or drop down. The dating scene is for the cool kids, and I'm not tall enough for the ride.

Thanks again for reading and take care!