Looking for a woman's perspective but a little afraid because I might find out I don't even deserve comfort or sympathy. Maybe we could discord voice chat, but I'm more comfortable with text chat.
It's 2am and I'm fading fast, so hopefully I can at least spare you most of your time. My girlfriend left tuesday morning. The apartment is empty and she took the cats. I never asked her to leave, but she said I tell her that she's horrible all of the time. I have been frustrated with her money issues (I paid all of the rent, grocery, dinner, bills etc for at least 4 months of a 7 month relationship) and her impulse to burn a bridge as a lost cause instead of trying to mend a fence (not just in our own relationship, but in the workplace as well). I have definitely failed in bringing this up in a way that doesn't make her defensive and kick the can down the road.
But I know it takes two to tango.
Maybe I've been insensitive to her needs for time to cool down before she says hurtful things. It's very hard for me to walk away from an argument when I also have a deep need for sympathy and comfort. And the more neglected I imagine myself, the more cold and distant I get.
I guess I'd like to be vulnerable while I fall asleep and explore if I'm the bad guy in all of this.
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