Here's the story: I'm separated. A very amicable divorce is on the horizon, but America's healthcare system, am I right? I am single. We don't live together. He remains a friend, it’s very modern and I’m grateful for it.

If that didn't scare you away... keep reading.

I'm looking for a REAL connection. I know I'm probably in the wrong place, but I'm into taking chances when I can. I want to get to get to know each other, ask a million questions, bond over our weird quirks, and build trust...

I want to have a person to share excitement with. Someone to chat with when we're needing a little boost. The person who sends me goofy selfies, memes, and good mornings. I want intimacy, which is different from sex (also important).

Maybe you're out there browsing this sub doing some virtual people watching looking for more?

Me: 31. 5'4". Somewhere between Chubby and BBW (like the smallest size of plus size). Biracial. Bubbly. Sarcastic. Often dark sense of humor. Introverted, but I can hang in a group and sometimes I even spotlight as the life of the party. I REALLY value communication and intellectual stimulation. Warm smile. Dark curly hair, sometimes dyed pink or purple on the ends (a remnant from my emo days). Very Left leaning. Non religious. Vaxxed and Double Boosted. Love my two rescue pitties.

Podcast listener. Love to watch true crime documentaries with a side of reality and silly rom com shows. I’ve been called things like "a force of nature, fierce, and feisty". Do with that what you will, but I'm outspoken, loyal and someone you'd want in your corner. I have a masters degree that I don't use. No kids. A creative or artsy type. Don't smoke or drink, but not "sober" just don't enjoy it. 420 okay.

YOU: A guy about 27-42 who is dating/LTR oriented. Be Single, truly single not poly/ENM/"working towards separation or divorce". (Call me a hypocrite, but l've talked to too many men who have secret wives and children.) Be left leaning/progressive - a total dealbreaker. Be Vaxxxed. Please DO NOT have a cat, I unapologetically do not like them, and I’m allergic, plus they wouldn't mesh with my dogs.

Be honest. Be intentional. A curious and passionate person. Understand things like social justice and inequity. A good communicator with emotional intelligence. Someone who asks questions and likes to talk frequently. Put in effort. Pursue me. Therapy is a plus in my book, while I’m a supportive partner I don't want to be an emotional support human. Have hobbies other than weed and video games/anime (a long shot on Reddit). If you're really into table top games or deeply into comic movies, we're not a match. I hope you find your fair elf maiden superwoman elsewhere.

If you made it this far and this sounds interesting...Let's start with a regular RESPECTFUL chat! You can tell me your favorite fruit when you introduce yourself, so I know it's real.