I have not had very good luck with love, been single for a very long time searching for that one who ticks most or even just some of the boxes and I am seriously looking for long-term. I posted on here before but didn’t find anything between ghosts and people who don’t really know what they want. So please only reply if you are SERIOUS about dating and know what you want. Where I live everyone is super outdoors oriented and I am quite an introverted homebody who likes video games and cozy nights at home. Online dating apps have been a complete bust due to this, so here I am on Reddit. I recently was getting catfished but luckily figured it out before it went too far, I am still super bummed about it so just know I would like to see a picture of you and then voice/video chat fairly quickly. So let me tell you about me!

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• 36, just shy of 5"11, short brown hair, blue eyes, trimmed beard. Kinda like a big ol' bear. Or at least I have been told I have a Papa Bear look whatever that means. This is me.
• No kids - I'm not sure if I want them but open to it if my future partner does
• Loves animals, especially big doggos - I had to put down my German Shepherd of 12 years in December and it was the toughest thing I've ever had to do. Since my last post, I have gotten a puppy! 12-week-old, Golden Retriever, expect pics and videos of him!
• Super nerdy - Most of what I do is play video games so if you could join me in that, that would be great especially if it's long-distance. If you live closer then even just a mild interest in nerdy things is ok. I love talking about gaming and gaming-related news.
• Dad bod - Working on getting it down but would rather it not matter.
• My taste in music is all over the place. From Video Game Soundtracks & Remixes, Lo-fi, 80's, Rap, Country, Rock, I like pretty much all of it but if I had to pick my top ones I would say Melodic Metal (Amaranthe, Ad Infinitum, Follow the Cypher), and Rock.
• Will always be respectful and treat you kindly.
• Homebody - I don’t really like going out all the time or being outdoors a lot. An issue I’m having is finding someone whose whole identity isn’t hiking, camping, & fishing. I like taking my puppy for walks and to the dog beach though.
• Depression & Anxiety! - Yup me too! Seems to be common among gamers and most people on the internet. Maybe the internet is the problem hmmm... Anyway, support of mental health awareness is a must, and non-judginess (that's not a word) is a must.
• No drugs! - I don’t do any drugs and do not even smoke weed. I don’t care if you smoke weed just don’t let it be your personality lol
• Rarely drink - the last drink I had was over a year ago, I just don’t care for it but I will have a drink rarely.
• Supportive - I will be your personal hype man and emotionally support you for almost anything!
• Hopeless romantic - I like to say cheesy things and I probably fall a little too easily.

I found the person whose photo the catfish stole and gave them my message history with the catfish and they told me reading it broke their heart because I seem like such a kind, vulnerable, and giving person. So I guess there is that. I just don’t want to be taken advantage of.

Now, what about you? What am I looking for? Well...

• 25-40 years old - I don’t think I’d go more than that age range. I have a silly joke book of "The Bro Code" from How I Met Your Mother and in there, it says the youngest you should date is half your age 7 so I tend to go by that. I have a sister whos 23 so too young would be weird to me.
• Nerdy - At least even a little bit? I’d love to play video games together, even if you aren't super into them as long as it's something we can sometimes do together. Even if it's just Mario. I’m looking forward to Diablo 4 so I’m hoping to have someone to play that with. Book nerds are cute too.
• Tattooed - obviously, this isn’t actually needed, it’s just really attractive
• Effort - This one is huge. I don’t like to be the one to send the first message all the time. And be able to hold a conversation. I don’t want to be the one asking all the questions and keeping the conversation going. Just wanna feel like I matter. I want someone that wants to put time and effort into me and I will return it. I like waking up to cut messages you have left or just something that tells me you’ve been thinking about me. Please be able to hold a conversation.
• Kind - Treat people kindly in general. Not just me. So much negativity in the world I would really like someone that likes to spread kindness and smiles. Also as I said, don't be judgy.
• I don’t care how much you have or make and you really shouldn’t care how much I have either.
• Open - I want us to be able to talk about EVERYTHING together. Obviously, this takes time but I have anxiety and don't want to be constantly thinking something is wrong because you are always vague.

I would like someone in BC, Canada, or at least within 6-8 hours of me like Alberta or something, and must be willing to travel. I’m not very good with long-distance unless we are constantly talking and doing things together so I don't think anything further than that would work for me unless you have the resources to visit me often. For example, Seattle is about 6 hours away from me and Vancouver is about 4 hours. I don’t really want to leave BC so hopefully if you are farther away you are willing to relocate in the future. I just want someone who will talk to me every day, send each other memes and music, and do stuff together like best friends would.

If you are an artist I would love to see your work. I love seeing things people create and have the talent that I lack!

This was a lot longer post than I thought and I hope that doesn’t scare people away. I’m just really exhausted with online dating. Thanks for reading my long post! If any of this sounds good to you please feel free to message me and tell me a little about yourself. I’d like you to include a picture too since I’m so cautious now.