Disclaimer: Unfortunately this is necessary now. I thought about re-writing my post but just because some people are stupid doesn't mean I don't stand behind what I've written. Yes, my English is not perfect but no, I don't need your advice on how to write my post. I'm not interested in sexting, hook-ups etc, no matter how hot you think you are. I'm not desperate. And please don't message me if you don't know what you want, I can't stress this enough. I'm certain in what I want and my post portrays that so you need to be certain as well. Thank you for your attention.

Hi!

My name's Vanessa. I'm 39 years old and I'm from Germany. I live close to the Dutch border. I have a 19 year old daughter who already moved out. I do not want to have any more children of my own. I'm about 5'4" and weigh around 220 lbs. So yes, my body isn't some nice and fit one like the one of a 20 year old.

I recently posted here but I'm finding it very difficult to write something that will attract the right people. If there is too much information nobody's gonna read, if you keep it straight to the point there will be zero effort. So I think I'll write one last polished and lengthy post and hope for the best.

So I'm really looking for my forever person, my best friend. The person I want to spend my life with, the person where I'll be proud to call them my own. I want to come home to happiness and goofiness. I want to talk, be silent, laugh, cry and be myself. And at the end of the day no matter how good or bad things have been, I know you'll accept me for who I am. I just really want to feel that spark when you first message me and we get along right away. Maybe that's still possible.

My interests include reading, gaming and various crafts like crochet, cross stitch or whatever I can get my hands on. I'd love to build something from scratch but I don't know how to do it.

I admit that I'm not always easy to deal with but I'm always willing to work on things if necessary and that should go both ways. I'm usually very relaxed and calm but I can have a temper, especially when I feel treated unfairly or I'm not getting taken seriously. I want equality in a relationship. I cry very easily and I also get scared very easily but I have a big heart and lots of love and care to give. Just please be ready to communicate and accept boundaries. I don't want to rush into things, I want to take my time to get to know you on a deeper level and build something that is solid.

I'm ready to settle. Wherever that might be. We'll figure that out. Maybe even marriage. Wherever our path will lead us.

I don't have a specific type of man I prefer. You should at least be 33 or older. You need to be financially stable or well off, not because I want anything but I can't support your ass (lol don't even ask). You should be a tad bit taller than me but that's not too difficult.

Here's me. Flattering and unflattering pictures :

https://i.imgur.com/CzMDyyf.jpeg

https://i.imgur.com/Rp64hOU.jpeg

https://i.imgur.com/Vu119ON.jpeg

https://i.imgur.com/DKd58k7.jpeg

I'm not going to reply if you don't attach a picture, I'm sorry. Also please put a tiny bit of effort into your reply such as age and location etc.

Unfortunately I'll be busy during the week now but I'll get back to you as soon as possible, promise!

Have a wonderful day!