Hello,

I am 42 and non-binary (or possibly transfemme). What does that mean? From day to day I can be more masculine and feminine. A good example of my behavior could be changing an alternator in heels or building a desk in the shop with fabulous french tips. How I present waxes and wanes, but overall I tend to be slightly more feminine. I have all my original parts and I’m not planning to change that configuration. I tend to be more asexual, meaning that sex is just not a driving factor in a relationship for me, but not off the table. I am not interested in hookups. I have a solid career and work full time as a lead software engineer from home.

Hobbies

Tinkering: I have built part of the garage into a shop and have numerous tools. Sometimes I spend time out there on a wood-working project or something else. Being a self-sufficient "do-it-yourselfer" is something I prescribe to.

Gaming: It’s been involved in my life since my youth. I enjoy spending time in front of the PC, enamored in some games from time to time. My preferences are with co-op survival, building, and story driven games such as Minecraft, Factrio, and Red Dead Redemption 2.

Gardening: Last year I built some raised garden beds and became involved in hydroponics. My focus is growing on food, which I cook and share with others. I grew a lot of tomatoes, peppers, onions, and herbs outside and lettuce, kale, and greens inside this year.

Tv Shows & Movies: Like most, some of my attention goes towards shows and movies. Some of my favorites include The Good Place, The Walking Dead and Stranger Things. I do enjoy some Family Guy, American Dad, and South Park too, but I don’t care for anime.

Additional Facts about Me:

• Can cook in the kitchen, operate a grill, and utilize a smoker.
• Organized individual that routinely cleans and keeps most things in their place.
• Financially secure.
• Active, routinely exercising, and focusing on improving all the time. I am the healthiest I have been my entire life now.
• Have several interests spanning multiple hobbies.
• Own and maintain my house.
• Agnostic and simply do not believe in higher powers or beings.
• Substance free except for an occasional drink.
• Tend to be a homebody but not troubled to get out in a social group from time to time.
• Don’t subscribe to much online social media and never have had a TikTok, Instagram or Twitter account.
• Democrat, but distance myself from most political discussions.

What I’m Look For

I’ve been single for a few years and looking to change that. You are a responsible adult around the ages of 30-50, but not a hard limit. You have similar interests and hobbies as well as a healthy set of your own. A job is not something you’ve thought about doing and you are either in a growing career or working and trying to move towards that. I am not looking for hookups or instant gratification, but hoping to meet someone interested in building something far more substantial.