Helllooo Internet. I am searching for a Life Partner.

If you and I are attracted to each other, we can have a more traditional romantic life partner-y-ship. If you and I are not attracted to one another, we can have a less traditional platonic life partner-y-ship. I see about the same # of pros and cons to each.(Platonic Life Partnership doesn't preclude sexual relationships elsewhere.) I struggle to categorize myself in all sorts of ways, but if I had to, I'd say I was somewhere in the panromantic & demisexual genre. I'm really just looking to connect up with someone who makes my life better, and whose life I make better. I'm into life being better, and us being more than the sum of our parts.

You can be anywhere to start, but I'm specifically not looking for a long distance thing, so please don't respond from far away unless you're open to moving.

ME

If I wrote a memoire, it would be called "Late Bloomer." I work in the healing field, and it's my favorite thing. I spend a lot of time thinking about how we can change the world together, and I'm working to that end. I have lived in and out of monasteries, I have a chanting practice, and I would like to go back to school to contribute to the field of theoretical physics. I am an avid cyclist and yogi. I'm excited to do longer bike rides - like a weekend trip to a place we've wanted to visit. I like roller skating, I'm a rookie sailor and an enneagram 5. I love creating and fixing things as a team -- beautiful tasty meals, fixing my bike, working on my car, altering clothing or building something we think would be a fun challenge. I need an equal amount of alone time and connection. I can't see myself sharing a bed or a room with an LP. I need a space that is just mine. I usually decompress with TV shows, and I tend to like things that are lighter, wholesome, and make me smile.

I'm a generally self-aware Disorganized Attached person. I have worked to heal this attachment wound, and though I still struggle with intimacy in certain ways, I have learned to be healthier by slowing things waaayyyy down, and checking myself. I'm not perfect! I still read things wrong and have a breakdown based on my imagined reality. But I do a lot better when I take small steps and move slow. I can sometimes be a little skittish when I feel insecure in relationship, but when I feel secure, I am loyal, caring, warm, open, attuned, and funny. This goes for deep friendships as well as romantic partners.

If my work were 100% virtual, I would potentially consider leaving the Bay Area. That's not the case currently, but it could happen. I do best living somewhere warm, and sunshine is vital for my mood. Places that pop up in my mind are Sedona, AZ, Austin, TX or somewhere in Mexico. If possible, I would never see snow again. I find great value in the "village" lifestyle and am working to live in community. Ideally... eventually... I see a patch of land with several homes/cottages, or something like a 4-plex building, with each apartment filled with families/people we love. As a community, we share some things, and we are independent on others. I might be open to an LP who already has a kid.

Your pic gets mine if you're interested in my physical form. I'm 5'6", 140lb, brown hair and eyes, athletic-pear body type.

YOU

You enjoy being part of a team. You tend toward kindness and assuming best intentions, and you enjoy being deeply honest, you know it's a gift. You don't to take things too personally -- you can crack a kind joke in my direction to help me snap out of myself if I need it. You are cooperative and collaborative. You don't see relationships as a competitive sport. You know how to fight and repair well. You can allow someone to be with you in your feelings, and you know how to be with someone else while they are in their feelings. You do not dismiss or negate someone else's reality. You might be skilled enough to validate, soothe and help someone question what is going on for them. If that's you, bravo! We need more of you. You have a worldview that includes structural and systemic oppression/trauma. Alt-right worldviews are serious dealbreakers. You like to do projects with people! When you have a bestie or a partner, you like thinking and talking in terms of "us". You enjoy both funny banter and serious conversation. You like being social at times, and you also like chilling out at times. You don't like the word "impossible". You are consistent, and reliable. You do what you say you're going to do, or you communicate otherwise. You act and sound like an adult. You reach out. You are financially stable, or have a solid plan to get there and are on your way.

If this sounds like something you'd be interested in exploring, give me a shout!