Hello!

I'm a 43 year old woman living in central North Carolina currently, but am planning a move back to Western Washington in the next few months to year (no specific date yet).

I am currently looking to meet people who are open to building a friendship-based relationship which has the potential to grow into a primary partnership. I am not sure exactly what I want a future relationship to look like, because I think it always depends on me and the other person. But I want a friendship-based romantic relationship that is emotionally open, honest, communicative, kind, and supportive. And I want a sexual relationship that is active, creative, and open - but I feel like there is a lot of flexibility in what that might look like for us.

I like to start building a relationship around a core of close friendship and see where things go, but to approach and grow that relationship in a way that preserves the core friendship as the most important part of the connection. I'm not looking for someone to be everything for me - I have lots of friends and my relationships with people in my life are important to me. But I am looking for a relationship that feels like home.

Here are some things about me:
Kind, talkative, fat, open, sarcastic, vulnerable, anxious, confident, outgoing, witty, melancholy, adorable, pragmatic, idealistic, non-judgmental, down-to-earth, overeducated and underemployed, passionate about healthy mental growth, neurodivergent (ADHD), empathetic, irreverent, delighted by physical touch, kinky, live for interesting conversation, love to care for and be cared for by my partner, spontaneous in a low-key way, uninhibited, direct, non-religious, handy (renovations, building dumb things, fixing problems), creative/artsy (pottery, drawing, painting, music), fun-loving and open to new things, 420 friendly, love watching TV while I do other stuff - playing games (PC, board games, some console playing), reading, playing with computers, and have been learning German for a little over 2 years. I'm neither a homebody nor someone who's out and about all of the time. I like both and go through phases of each.

Here are some things that I'm looking for:
People of any gender who are comfortable being vulnerable and are interested in personal growth who enjoy talking, laughing, and touching. You are comfortable spending the day in a cuddle puddle around the house and going out as well. I want someone who's open to being sexually experimental/kinky, who enjoys physical touch, and who enjoys touching and pleasing their partner as much as I do. I want a partner who is turned on by seeing/thinking about me with other people the same way that I am turned on by knowing my partners' sexual needs are being met. Physically I enjoy a wide variety of people. I'm most often attracted to slender/skinny men, but attraction is very case-by-case for me. I like people who are not conventionally attractive the most. I value intelligence/thoughtfulness, but that doesn't mean you have to be well-educated. I often connect well with people who have ADHD or are on the autism spectrum (people who have felt "different" most of their lives). The things I value the MOST in people are altruism, nerdiness, a unique sense of humor (witty), progressiveness, and a willingness to share yourself with others (me included).

Things about partners I have a hard time connecting with:
- I am working on being more active and would be interested in easy hikes, biking, etc. occasionally, but I'm not going to be a gym partner or anything.
- I don't connect with partners who are really into sports - it's not a thing I'm into. It's not a deal breaker, but I generally prefer when people aren't into them.
- You can be from anywhere because I haven't settled yet, but flexibility in location is something we'd need to negotiate.

Deal breakers:
- Must be between the ages of 30-45. I often connect best with people between 35-40 because of my non-traditional path through life.
- Must treat people with empathy: don't be elitist, condescending, or conservative.
- Must be unmarried and not already in a primary partnership. At this time, I am not looking for connections that are impossible to be more than casual.

When you send me a message, just be honest and share some of who you are and what you're looking for. You don't have to try and "impress" me with something clever or unique - I just want to know a bit about you. Make sure you tell me what you liked about my post, what you think we have in common, etc.

I respond to messages VERY slowly sometimes so that I can reply to them and get to know people without getting overwhelmed. Sometimes it takes me weeks to reply. If you make a reasonable attempt to connect with me and don't seem to hit on my deal breakers, I will reply to you - even if it's just to say that I don't think it sounds right. Messages or chat are fine - I will not reply to comments on this post though. I would eventually like to connect on discord.

Thank you for reading this whole post. I know it's a lot, but I really hope to find an incredible person some day. Maybe it's you :D