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I'm not sure if my question is appropriate for this group so please redirect me and/or I'll delete the post.
My situation/context: I'm a trans man (41yo) who has gone through cryopreservation (egg freezing) when I was 31 yo (used all my savings to do this), hoping that i would give myself options later in my 30s (fyi: never interested in carrying a baby myself). I've always dreamed of having biologically linked kid(s) with a partner who would carry a baby (hers and/or mine). But I'm currently single and finding a partner rn isn't within my control, lol. And a professional surrogacy service is not a financially viable option for me.
Question: A friend of mine who works in the fertility world shared that there are women out there that love/enjoy the experience of carrying a baby and giving birth and that sometimes, if you ask around your community you might find someone (of course you'd pay for all their health care related costs if they volunteered to carry your baby). This might be a very far stretch of an ask but I was wondering if there are women out there in the QT community that would be open to talking about this as an option? OR maybe a group of QT ppl creating a family in a creative way. I'd be more than happy to hear suggestions and share more context! (Also, I'm open to DM, if you want to keep it more private)
Thank you for reading this far!
What’s your stance on platonic coparenting?
One of my friends has been looking to set up some sort of gay dude lesbian couple shared custody arrangement. If you can find someone - ideally someone you already know and trust! - who is interested in coparenting and is willing to carry eg one kid with your egg, one with theirs, that could work. Or an aroace person who’s not interested in romance but seeking a steady person to raise a family with might also be interested. There are websites for this, although I have no personal experience with their effectiveness, creepiness, or security.
Definitely get a lawyer to outline everything for you. But you don’t have to go it alone, nor do you have to be romantic with your kid’s other parent/s.
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